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Going on 3rd date with guy I don’t fancy!

78 replies

Mistleholly22 · 18/12/2022 01:27

So I have been on 2 dates with this guy who I don’t fancy and I don’t know how to get round the idea of me not fancying him.
I wasn’t attracted to him at all the 1st time but he asked me on another date and felt too rude to say no and the rest is history. I don’t exactly have many other options either so I’m wondering whether to make do with him as his personality is nice.
I don’t know whether to tell him it’s nothing more than a friendship or to make do and try to grow the attraction later. Opinions?

OP posts:
minticecreamisjustok · 18/12/2022 14:06

Poor guys looks being rated, just cancel the date, if you can't bring yourself to tell him how you really feel (thank goodness)
Just pick an excuse and be done with it.

WickedWangoCard · 18/12/2022 14:09

Stop wasting everyone's time.

You're wasting your own time with someone you don't find attractive.

You're wasting his time because you don't find him attractive and are just enjoying the attention (which is fine for one date, but it's cruel to string him along)

You're wasting our time because you're an obvious troll ("he's a 5 at best" is an awful thing to say).

serenghetti2011 · 18/12/2022 14:14

How would you feel if he was ‘making do’ with you? And saying you’re just a 5 but I guess he’ll go with it because there’s no one else?

not very nice op, I’m sure you don’t mean it like that but you’re leading this guy on, you need to cancel and be honest with him. And treat others as you’d wish to be treated. Some other girl might find him a 10!!!

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