Divorce and dog

[Lunamom]

I left my abusive husband 5 months ago. We lived on a farm , i worked from Home.
Since Then, i moved to rented flat, unemployed (worked for him) 2 teenagers with me.
We had a 1 year Old labrador. As i was The one ruining the Family, i brought the dog. We all love her. Good as Gold.
She is not coping. Today she bit my daughter, in unprovoked play, she bled. (English is not my language)
I wont keep her. I did not want her in flat. But could not say no to kids. But this changes everything.
Kids hate me. I found a place for her. A farm . People work from Home. They Hunt (she love that)
Im sure this is the life for her. Not a flat.
But kids hate me.
Tell me please they Will cope. I broke the Family and now i take their dog 😖

Will you take them out for lunch and have a proper chat about the situation?

Yes - i suggested lunch and going to the Cinema. We Will do.

A house rabbit might be a good compromise actually. They make good pets, can housetrain them and are cuddly, but obviously don't have the outdoor exercise requirements of a dog

We have a cat..

How have you gone from a farm to a flat OP? Even in the backwaters of NW England farms sell for £££'s!!!
I'm not surprised your teens are unhappy, the dog will just be the final straw. I agree it needs a new home for it's benefit but the kids need some stability now as everything has changed for them and not for the better.
You need to stop crying about it and start implementing some positive changes and something they can look forward to.

Havent Got the money for the sale yet, as stbx is stalling.
It went ok. We had a few videoes of her, having a great time at new Home, it helped my daughter to see dog is happy.
And yes i cried.. I dont Think it scarred kids, maby they Saw it also upset me.
We have had an ok day. Now watching a movie.

And i dont want a House again. Love Living in flat.

And they look forward a lovely holiday in the Sun in february..

I mean this kindly OP, do your kids love living in a flat? I grew up on a farm and at their ages I would have been devastated to leave my animals and move to a flat in a built up area.
I'm just trying to explain that what makes you happy and may be for the best might be making them miserable at this point.

When we lived on farm, they hated all about it. Distance to everything, mud, loneliness. Now they remember how great it was.
But the youngest is 14. Im not buying a farm or a House for Them. Sorry if you Think it make me a bad mom.

We have a 150 m2 flat

I don't think it makes you a bad mum, we just have a tendency to see things from our perspective not theirs🤷‍♀️

So what is your advice?

This isn't about you though believe it or not

I Got a video of her - running around in a huge garden with the other dog Living there.. she was so happy ❤️

You need to put the needs of the dog first. The happiness of the dog is more important. The kids will get over it they need to u set stand the dog can be happy in a flat and none of you can be selfish. If you love the dog then let it go

Did you read my posts??

It’s not??? 😂

Why not? It is also my life? And as i am sort of an adult, i Think i am the one supposedly making the decisions?
We now life in a huge flat, with a good size balcony, in a really Nice area, close to adult son and Family.
We live in the middle of a really Nice city center, But really quiet, as it is "back" from street. Good schools (starting today🤞) and the dog has Got a new great Home.
I know i hurt my children when i Got divorced. And i hurt Them now, getting the dog rehomed. And i am really sorry for both. But this is also about me! And i really Think both the divorce and rehoming the dog, is best for my children, in the Long run.

Op what’s the point of those thread how? Might as well move on. The dog has gone and you seem much stronger about it and your decisions you’ve taken.