Hi everyone.
In a predicament and would appreciate impartial second opinions please!
Been with bf for 6 months, both mid twenties, I’m his first gf.
Things have been said/happened that niggle at me but I can’t tell if it’s just me being insecure/overthinking?
Looks are very important to him. He’ll frequently comment on women he finds attractive (actresses, exes, women he knows), size of their boobs, that kind of thing. Before meeting my family he asked me if I was the most attractive woman in my family and if my mum was a MILF (as a joke…) He did lots of OLD before we met and (before anyone says why are you looking, I think a man’s social media presence can be very insightful about their character) and I found that he has kept them on his social media (which is fine) but he exclusively likes revealing photos of them, rather than standard cute dog or coffee photos if you catch my drift. He also said that he wishes I would post more photos of me looking nice on SM because “I don’t look nice in my photos” (I never share selfies, if I do, it’s because I’m doing something as a joke where I definitely don’t look like a model, I hate taking myself seriously on SM). He’s got lots of female friends (which again is totally fine and I have liked in previous partners) but these relationships are very flirty. Finally, I’m fairly attractive, which he compliments me on a lot which is lovely, but sometimes he’ll talk about my appearance so much (you’d like good with this hairstyle or that dress etc) that I don’t feel that he ‘gets’ me on a deeper level. It also makes me worry about what will happen if we have children and as I age etc.
My gut is saying that he is immature and unaware but not a bad guy, but at the same time to get out as this will erode my self-esteem over time. What do you think? AIBU?