So I'm a few months into OLD and it's one disaster after another.
The last one has hit me so hard. After just one month. He lives in Europe but comes to the UK 2-3 times a month. That sounded ideal to me. So we chatted online for 2.5 weeks. Intensly. He seems to good to be true. Then we met next time he was in the UK and after 5 minutes we were kissing like teenagers. For 3.5 hrs. We chatted a bit of course. But the chemistry online translated into something magic IRL. The communication lessened a bit but still sweet messages and quite a lot still. I was smitten. He works in a very demanding job bit still found time. The following week he was back and we met. From the moment we met in the pub to every escalator, the cinema (didn't watch much...), outside the cinema, on the tube etc - we held hands and were kissing non-stop. The following week he went on a work trip and I heard from him 3 times over one week and now it's the odd message only. He's not been back to the UK since (as far as I know). I don't get why he can't just say that he doesn't want more or something but to just slowly let go is so painful. He said work is busy but that's just an excuse. He's extremely handsome so I just assume someone else has got his attention but I have no idea where things went wrong and I can't stop thinking about it.
Any tricks and tips to spot these a-holes early and more importantly, how do I heal now?
We're in our mid or late 40s.