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Women liking my husband pics

106 replies

ok1992 · 01/12/2022 21:10

I don't know if it is just me that would be annoyed with this and that I'm some crazy person to feel like this.

So my husband has his instagram and he has no pics of me or us together on there, so I think it appears that he is single.

So I've noticed the same women always like his pictures/videos

These women are from his work, he works in a warehouse not that it's anything to do with it but they are all foreign women .

Would this annoy you too?

OP posts:
PortiasBiscuit · 02/12/2022 06:27

Why is any grown-up on Instagram?

housemaus · 02/12/2022 06:30

onlythreenow · 02/12/2022 06:15

Why would a warehouse worker have an Instagram page?

What has his job got to do with having an Instagram page? Anyone can have one.

Exactly. This made me laugh out loud ... a WAREHOUSE worker? On INSTAGRAM? 🤣

housemaus · 02/12/2022 06:32

OP I'm not sure why it matters that they're foreign, seems fully unnecessary to mention that.

I have maybe 2 photos of DH on my instagram from almost a decade together - mostly I have pictures of buildings and food. DH doesn't have any of me, his are mostly mountains. I've no idea who likes his insta pics and I very much doubt he looks at who likes mine. To me the fact that you're even checking says either:

A) you're very insecure (and possibly racist - weird oversexualising of women from different countries) and need to work on it
B) he's given you reason not to trust him, in which case then just leave him as that's no way to live

housemaus · 02/12/2022 06:37

PortiasBiscuit · 02/12/2022 06:27

Why is any grown-up on Instagram?

... to post and/or look at photos of things they find interesting or want to share with their friends, family or the wider world? To make connections with likeminded people or learn something new or find things out? (LOTS of informative or educational or interesting Instagrams out there - husr as there are interesting areas of mumsnet where likeminded people gather, share info or anecdotes or support one another, etc - you could as easily ask why any grown up is on a forum)

Very odd to position one of the biggest social media sites in the world as something for children as though it's beneath adults. Not sure how much tech news you've consumed in the last 40 years but the internet isn't a teenage fad that's going to die out, you know ;)

frozendaisy · 02/12/2022 06:42

Pinkbonbon · 02/12/2022 03:43

Commenting on her husband pictures is hardly 'game playing'. Provided there's nothing going on, there's no reason why it would be an issue.

IF nothing comes of it THEN sit down and have a chat about how you are feeling.

It's all very well that she should be able to talk to her husband. But if he is up to something, all that will achieve is him gaslighting her about it. And being alerted to the fact that she suspects he is up to no good.

Trust is important. But so is trusting your own instincts and doing your due diligence when you think something is up.

It is all game playing.

Oh look at me in the gym
But he hasn't got a photo of me on there
Oh another woman is liking all his posts and on Facebook
I need to mention me in the comments how happy we are even though I have to mention me in the comments

All because he might gaslight over something that may or not be happening

A decent husband, if you just told him it was driving you nuts would reassure and explain whatever was needed to his wife.

Whereas this seems much more "stay away from my husband" rather than "respect our marriage vows". If a husband strays it's his fault not the other woman/party.

lap90 · 02/12/2022 06:49

Those foreign women takin our men...

Your issue is with your husband.

Outtasteamandluck · 02/12/2022 06:50

If a husband strays it's his fault not the other woman/party.

I disagree with this. The woman is also to blame if she knows he's married.

tunthebloodyalarmoff · 02/12/2022 06:52

WhT would annoy me is having a husband with Instagram !

astronewt · 02/12/2022 07:18

PortiasBiscuit · 02/12/2022 06:27

Why is any grown-up on Instagram?

My IG is 20% wearable fashion and 80% responsible dog breeders who post a lot of puppy vids. It's awesome.

DH is an amateur photog and uses his to capture his photography and set himself photography challenges. A lot of people use it for something beyond "posting pics of myself and my family".

sammylady37 · 02/12/2022 07:43

PortiasBiscuit · 02/12/2022 06:27

Why is any grown-up on Instagram?

I’m taking a wild guess here and I may well be wrong, but I’d say it’s because they want to be.

Original poster
ok1992 · 02/12/2022 07:53

Ok I know a lot of this has been taken out of context so wished I not of brought it up.

But I am not painting every person with the same brush here.
And like I have said previous it's one of them situations where you have to be there to understand.
I have worked where he works I know what the people are like there and I'm not saying EVERY woman that works in a warehouse that is NOT British (foreign) is the same so sorry if that offended anyone. I'm just painting a picture of where HE works.

I'm simply stating the woman liking all his pictures are the women from his work that I'm not even aware he is friends with .
And obviously his Insta you would think he is single , so for some reason is that what they are thinking too? And is that why they are liking his pics.

OP posts:
layladomino · 02/12/2022 07:55

I'm not on instagram, but I don't understand the posters questionning why he's on it. a) that wasn't what Op's question was about and b) why shouldn't they be on it? It's another form of communication, based on pictures, that can be really interesting and useful, and.... fun (I think some people don't see the point of fun).

Anyhow..... aside from the racism (and it is racism), I think your issue is that you don't trust your husband. If you trust him, you wouldn't have these worries, and it wouldn't matter if a woman from work came on to him.

If you think your husband is trying to pass himself off as single / trying to impress someone at work, then that's the problem. Not the pack of your name on his SM, not the nationaility of the people involved, not the fact they might fancy him.

Original poster
ok1992 · 02/12/2022 07:58

And like I said there are no guys liking his pics from work just women!

OP posts:
ButterCrackers · 02/12/2022 07:59

Get an Instagram account and make it public. Post some photos of you and your partner. Like and comment with some hearts on your partners photos. Hopefully the other women will click on your account and see the pcs of you and your partner.

wickerhearth · 02/12/2022 08:00

PlainOldMe80 · 01/12/2022 22:13

I'm foreign, a warehouse worker and I also have an instagram account......😂

How dare you!😂😂

mangomary · 02/12/2022 08:01

Surely you should be more concerned about what your husband is doing and why rather than the women looking at his posts?

MajorCarolDanvers · 02/12/2022 08:03

What does their nationality have to do with it.

Flashingtealights · 02/12/2022 08:12

It’s it who is liking his pictures that is the issue, it’s more that he has no references to having a wife, presenting himself as single that is the problem .

ImissSclub7 · 02/12/2022 08:13

Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:52

*looking

And if he has q problem with it the you know he is cheating on you. Or at the very least, trying to.

make sure you have pictures of you and him together on your Instagram too, set to public. So if she sees the comment and thinks 'wtf? Who is this?' She will click your page and see he is defo your hubby. That way he can't lie to her further.

This. Just in case. Yes I'd be wary too.

PlainOldMe80 · 02/12/2022 08:47

OP doesn't have anything to worry about, I am still very happy with my current DP who I have to admit have met in work 😂😂😂😂

PlainOldMe80 · 02/12/2022 08:49

Above comment is for @ThirtyThreeTrees 🙈

PlainOldMe80 · 02/12/2022 08:53

wickerhearth · 02/12/2022 08:00

How dare you!😂😂

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@wickerhearth 😂

NibbledSwitch · 02/12/2022 09:10

Is your husband wearing a wedding ring in any of his insta pics?

girlmom21 · 02/12/2022 09:17

Flashingtealights · 02/12/2022 08:12

It’s it who is liking his pictures that is the issue, it’s more that he has no references to having a wife, presenting himself as single that is the problem .

I think it's more that his wife stalks his Instagram interactions that's the problem.

I've just looked and the last time I posted DP on my profile was over a year ago. That doesn't mean I'm acting single.

Facecream · 02/12/2022 10:02

I have nothing family related on my Instagram account - I se it for the art stuff I do. I like dozens of animal and dog videos but I assure you I’m not trying to hump any of them.
This “girl” is probably feeling obliged to like your DH’s videos and most likely doesn’t actually even watch them.
And if she doesn’t know he’s married why does she not know?

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