Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

Women liking my husband pics

106 replies

ok1992 · 01/12/2022 21:10

I don't know if it is just me that would be annoyed with this and that I'm some crazy person to feel like this.

So my husband has his instagram and he has no pics of me or us together on there, so I think it appears that he is single.

So I've noticed the same women always like his pictures/videos

These women are from his work, he works in a warehouse not that it's anything to do with it but they are all foreign women .

Would this annoy you too?

OP posts:
MMmomDD · 01/12/2022 23:44

All foreign women?….
Ask them where they are really from then, to be sure 🤷🏻‍♀️

Seriously - are ‘foreign’ women some other species for you? The kind that would find your H irresistible and try to corrupt him?

Your issue isn’t women of different origins. Your issue is your British husband who posts ‘look at me’ sort of pictures on Instagram.

Original poster
ok1992 · 01/12/2022 23:47

Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:44

Make a comment on his pics that's makes it clear you are his wife (and also that you are still lovey-dovey incase he is trying to sell the lie that you two are not getting along).

What happens if you do that?
If he freaks out or asks you to take it down THEN you know you have a problem.

Thank you for some advice . I think I will try this .

OP posts:
Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:50

Foe example you could post 'look as fine as the day I married you hubby' or something along those lines on a pic of his she has liked.

And see how he takes that.

Mangofandangoo · 01/12/2022 23:51

Miss03852 · 01/12/2022 22:00

So my husband has his instagram and he has no pics of me or us together on there, so I think it appears that he is single.

🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Finally! All these women that say it wouldn't bother them are nutcases

Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:52

*looking

And if he has q problem with it the you know he is cheating on you. Or at the very least, trying to.

make sure you have pictures of you and him together on your Instagram too, set to public. So if she sees the comment and thinks 'wtf? Who is this?' She will click your page and see he is defo your hubby. That way he can't lie to her further.

Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:54

Ps: do it it you know he wont be near his phone for a while. So he won't be able to delete it fast. Give other women longer to see it.

If he does delete it, again, he's cheating.

MajorCarolDanvers · 01/12/2022 23:55

Ive never checked to see who likes my DH posts on social media.

I'm quite sure he has female friends and colleagues who like his pictures etc.

I don't give it a second thought.

brookln · 02/12/2022 00:04

'Why would a warehouse worker have an Instagram page?'

Thanks for the laughs OP. You've eased my hangover.

Opentooffers · 02/12/2022 00:04

Find some pics of the 2 of you together, then tag him lots. Add captions about having a lovely day out with DH etc. That might spoil it for him.

Original poster
ok1992 · 02/12/2022 00:05

Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:52

*looking

And if he has q problem with it the you know he is cheating on you. Or at the very least, trying to.

make sure you have pictures of you and him together on your Instagram too, set to public. So if she sees the comment and thinks 'wtf? Who is this?' She will click your page and see he is defo your hubby. That way he can't lie to her further.

I already have pics on my own page, so thanks I will leave some comments and see if he says anything, and Like I said previous he has only recently posted selfie like pics normally it's just gym videos .

OP posts:
Pinkbonbon · 02/12/2022 00:12

Good luck! .Hopefully its nothing. But him having nothing of his wife on social media at all wpild be a big red flag to me.

Tbh if this girl was liking every single photo he posted I suppose that is a red flag too.

I've had guys do that to me when they are obviously looking to hook up. Friendsdont tend to be religious about liking absolutely everything you post imo. So if she is liking everything, I would assume that was a 'hey, I'm into you' move.

sammylady37 · 02/12/2022 00:14

Pinkbonbon · 01/12/2022 23:50

Foe example you could post 'look as fine as the day I married you hubby' or something along those lines on a pic of his she has liked.

And see how he takes that.

Christ. Wouldn’t it be easier if she just pissed on him to mark her territory

Original poster
ok1992 · 02/12/2022 00:15

Pinkbonbon · 02/12/2022 00:12

Good luck! .Hopefully its nothing. But him having nothing of his wife on social media at all wpild be a big red flag to me.

Tbh if this girl was liking every single photo he posted I suppose that is a red flag too.

I've had guys do that to me when they are obviously looking to hook up. Friendsdont tend to be religious about liking absolutely everything you post imo. So if she is liking everything, I would assume that was a 'hey, I'm into you' move.

Yes I know to some people it wouldn't affect them or even interest them but that is why I needed some reassurance and this one particular girl I have seen like his pics is also on his Facebook" loving " the same pics and she only follows 18 people on instagram one of which is him, so it just has me thinking

OP posts:
Pinkbonbon · 02/12/2022 00:15

sammylady37 · 02/12/2022 00:14

Christ. Wouldn’t it be easier if she just pissed on him to mark her territory

Show quote history

Whatever works xD

magma32 · 02/12/2022 00:17

You seem to have some internalised misogyny op and what difference does it make if they’re foreign?

i think your real problem is your Dh acting as though he’s single and enjoying the attention off instagram. Do you have an instagram? Would he like it if you didn’t have his pictures on there but random men liking yours? If the answer is no then you know what the real problem is.

stop blaming the women when it’s your Dh that’s most likely welcoming it.

Pinkbonbon · 02/12/2022 00:25

I could be wrong but maybe op means that if say, a cute Italian guy hit on you, well he is hot AND has that extra layer of 'exotic'.

And the stereotype is often that people cheat in order to get something that they don't get at home. Of course the fact is, they usually just cheat cause they are dickheads.

pumpkincivilisation · 02/12/2022 00:25

astronewt · 01/12/2022 22:04

Those furrin women. They know how to have sex with a man right there in public on his Instagram likes. They're known for it.

GrinGrinGrin

SmallNuts · 02/12/2022 03:06

Just make a comment on his latest picture….. love wifey xxx

frozendaisy · 02/12/2022 03:10

I would just tell him exactly how you feel OP. I mean he is your husband after all.

You shouldn't be annoyed at the women they haven't made any marriage vows to you they are free humans to like whatever they want on Instagram.

I would say "are you trying to look like some single gym bunny on insta at the moment then?". Take it from there.

Fucking nonsense playing insta-message games. I mean you live with him. He is your husband. You should be able to tell him anything however crazy. You should be able to just say "for some bizarre reason I am becoming batshit paranoid about your insta account"

Pinkbonbon · 02/12/2022 03:43

Commenting on her husband pictures is hardly 'game playing'. Provided there's nothing going on, there's no reason why it would be an issue.

IF nothing comes of it THEN sit down and have a chat about how you are feeling.

It's all very well that she should be able to talk to her husband. But if he is up to something, all that will achieve is him gaslighting her about it. And being alerted to the fact that she suspects he is up to no good.

Trust is important. But so is trusting your own instincts and doing your due diligence when you think something is up.

Womencanlift · 02/12/2022 04:38

You are focusing your annoyance on the wrong person so for that YABU

The ‘foreign’ lady (her nationality is completely irrelevant but you brought it into the conversation) is very likely keen on your DH. That’s not the issue. The issue is your DH portraying himself as single. If he is doing that in real life too then it’s understandable that she thinks she may be in with a chance

So instead of focusing on her and how many followers she has, maybe remind your DH that he is in a relationship and he should make that known to others to avoid any upset from either side

ThirtyThreeTrees · 02/12/2022 05:48

PlainOldMe80 · 01/12/2022 22:13

I'm foreign, a warehouse worker and I also have an instagram account......😂

Oh no, OP is now searching your previous posts to see if you have ever posted about having a crush on a coworker!! Or anything that could be a vague reference to her DH

I'm foreign too, total temptress I am, spend days scrawling insta looking for a secondhand husband!!!!! (Seriously though, what's with the foreign comment?)

Why can't you discuss this with your husband? Tell him you have an issue with it. See what happens.

onlythreenow · 02/12/2022 06:15

Why would a warehouse worker have an Instagram page?

What has his job got to do with having an Instagram page? Anyone can have one.

RSintes · 02/12/2022 06:23

So if they weren't foreign it would be ok then?

orbitalcrisis · 02/12/2022 06:23

It wouldn't bother me at all. But then, my mother is foreign so maybe I see things like this in a foreign way.