I think I found a mini vibrator in my car

[howdoIhandlethissituation]

Obviously name changed.

Context: late 40s, married 20 years, two dcs late teens still at home. Sexless marriage for 5 years. Before that very unsatisfactory. No intimacy.
No communication other than day-to-day running of the home and family.
I've checked out but so has he, long ago.
Basically I gave up trying (aka banging head against a brick wall), spent several years getting quite depressed, then went on antidepressants, hrt and had therapy.
Feel better about life in general and in myself, but still not brave enough to fall it a day on my marriage, for the usual reasons: fear of the unknown, upheaval for dcs, financial implications (not dire but scary all the same).

Today I found what I think is a mini vibrator in the compartment on the inside of the driver's door of our shared car. The dcs don't drive. Dh and I are the only ones who could have put it there and it wasn't me. I have never even seen one but it's metallic, pink, about 4 inches long, looks like a bullet and has an AAA battery. Nothing happens when I press the button but I can't think of anything else it could be.

As it was in the car I assume he's been using prostitutes.

So, how do I handle this?

My plan is to try a new battery tomorrow to confirm what it is.

Then check bank account for cash withdrawals.

Advice?

???? Dead elf bar?? mouthpiece?? What?? Sounds interesting though.

I very much doubt it’s a sex worker

If it is what you think it is then an affair is more likely surely?

I can't imagine there are many sex workers can be arsed with clients turning up with their own vibrators like they give a toss about anything other than getting their own end away ASAP.

But as a PP asks, does it really matter at this point OP? If the marriage is as dead as you describe, why are either of you still hanging around?

Why on earth would you touch something you think is a vibratory and why would your furst thought be prostitute rather than affair or dogging and DON'T TOUCH STRANGE SEX TOYS

Most vibrators use N batteries, not AAA

There’s a huge “add image” button under where you type… but you can’t work it out hmmmmm hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

No, they don't tend to be that small or pink.

😂

French Bullet?

Perhaps the wrong time of year to be talking about dead elves. Sorry!!! I mean disposable e-cigs. They’re everywhere at the moment.

Yes what on earth is an elf bar and why would it need a mouth piece? Totally confused here. I do hope you come back and tell us and it prompts you to move on with your life.

My bullet takes AAA’s

It’s a disposable vape

Does you Dh vape?

Quick glance at Lovehoney and in the box under our bed confirms that several take AAA.

I touched it by accident. I was cleaning out the papers and carpark tickets and felt something hard. At first I thought it was a cartridge for a squirty cream thing (in my naivety!)

I have since washed my hands.

Affair does sound likely. But how sordid doing it in our car.

I know, i'm a total luddite but even I can figure that out

‘Prompts you to move on with your life’

I don’t understand this?

Oh thank you! Thought it was something to do with elf on the shelf (the adult version perhaps)

A disposable vape

Photo

<awaits Facebook feed filing up with elves puffing on elf bars>

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Stealth boast but my vibrator is rechargable

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