Wwyd if very close relative was sexist racist and homophobic

[Nobloodynamesiwant]

So child is grown now and makes own choices but despite best efforts has mental health issues has history of selfharm suicide attempts is extremely racist sexist homophobic also no empathy. Can be very nice and charming but also vile. How do you deal with his views do you carry on relationship or not? Does not stick to not talking about these issues and loves a debate where they accept no other views and tell you you are stupid and woke and all the rest. However also needs support what do you actually do?

It's very hard. My mum has dementia. She doesn't display any of those traits but she can be verbally aggressive. And can be pretty mean. But she's mentally ill and I love her. I'd never walk away from her and as hurtful as she can be, I put myself out to help her all the time and want the best outcome for her.
Of course, I don't know how much this man's personality and thoughts are fired by his mental health problems. But if he were my relative, I might stand back from him, but I'd always be keeping an eye on him to ensure that he was safe.

Depends. I am a woman and would not be doing woman's work for a sexist man. You're only reinforcing his belief that that is what women are for.

An older person is different I suppose, near to the end of life I think we lose hope that people will change. But a young person cannot be enabled if they are to change and grow. Be careful, many of the incel shooters turn on their mothers.