Should bad kissing be a good reason to not start something?

[Bathtubbathing]

It feels so shallow.

I've known this man for 2 years...met online with intent to be fwb. He's 5hr round trip away. Due to Covid and his family we've only met up IRL 6 times.

We get on really well. Text a lot most days. Lots of things in common and can talk for hours.

But he just can't kiss. It's awful. He's told me many times he loves the way I kiss and my gentle guidance telling him what I like in regards this falls on deaf ears.

Due to a change in his circumstances, he's made it clear he'd like a relationship with me now. He ticks every one of my boxes but I can't get past the awful kissing.

Seems a rubbish reason to not try and have a decent relationship with a good and honest man.

Should the pros win over the cons here, or should I go with my gut that says I don't want to commit to such a bad kisser?

A good snog is amazing, if you don't get wet / he's not got a hard on what is the point?

You have to be at the point of wanting to pull their clothes off and can't get enough of touching them.

The you get the last bus home separately and you are both still buzzing.

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Can he not kiss or can he not kiss how you like it. If you don't like how he kisses you then move on. I'm 30 years in and though it's not that often as 20 years ago, would never say I don't like kissing my spouse.
It's not a question of how it's done, it's a question of what it makes you feel.

Some unresolved issues there. Hope they can be sorted today, or tomorrow. Does he know?

My ExH was a crap kisser. It never got better. We were on holiday once and I saw a pond with carp in all open and closing their mouths and I remember thinking omg that's like DH. During the last few years of our marriage I couldn't bear to kiss him. I suppose in hindsight it contributed to us growing apart.
Despite me trying to teach him it didn't improve. In fact, he used to accuse me of not knowing how to kiss properly so perhaps we were just incompatible in that department as well as everything else.
New DP is an amazing kisser.
So my advice is: it's not unreasonable to finish over poor kissing. It won't get better. Only worse.

Considering you are looking for a fwb situation in particular, I'd say that incompatibilities in physical intimacy are pretty good reasons to not pursue a further relationship.

What 'older people' are those then?

I've heard it all now...

I'm typing this from his sofa, having had 3 orgasms this morning and 5 last night.

Thankful to say the kissing improved. Still not toe curlingly mind-blowing but it's got far far better over time.

He's got dental issues I didn't know about before, so hats off to the poster who suggested that.

So all is very good thanks.😁

What else is wrong with him?

Does he have his own place that is kept tidy and in good repair, a steady job, good hygiene,
previous relationship? Children?

What did you end up deciding @Bathtubbathing

@Coulditreallybe i think this is the OP! So yes, it improved!

I married a man who couldn't kiss. He just did what he wanted. Bad kissing also meant bad sex because he wasn't in tune with anyone's needs but his own. 21 years of awful sex, often. Because it was constant grabbing and demands.

Your choice though.

Deal-breaker. Life’s too short.