DH following naked women on Twitter half his age

[RainbowsMoonbeams]

Had a bit of a shock this morning. Something struck me about the way my DH is so secretive with his phone, and I decided to look on his Twitter account. I used to be on there, but closed my account a few years ago.

He follows loads of accounts with young women aged 21-26. He is 47 (I am 36). They all have their boobs out in their photos , some are exposing even more/ fully naked. I am devastated - he is old enough to be their dad and we have a 17 year old and 11 year old daughters. I feel creeped out he has been seeking out these young womens profiles to follow. Many say they are at uni and have only fans accounts too (though he swears he has not been on there)

There is the odd attractive woman he is following who is fully clothed too - nothing in common with them, which makes me wonder what his motives are, though he swears he hasn’t sent any DMs

I just feel so ugly - I am 39 weeks pregnant with our unplanned (but much wanted) baby.

Is this my hormones? Or am I right to be upset?

He is 47 (I am 36).

That's quite a gap.

Interesting that that's what he went for rather than the no doubt many divorcees etc near his own age.

Maybe as young as he could feasibly get (or as young as socially acceptable for his age), if you know what I'm saying

Why did his marriage/relationship break down with the mother of his 17 yr old (if you ever got the real story, big if).

I get flamed when I say this but with a lot of divorced and separated fathers kicking around on the dating scene; it becomes clear in time why they're kicking around on the dating scene.

And no, the same does not apply to women - before the 300 posts about that - since women are not, in fact, men.

Interesting that that's what he went for rather than the no doubt many divorcees etc near his own age.

Even back when he was 35 and you were 24, now that I see the she's you got involved.

Quite different ages stages of life for a mid 30 something with a child and a childless woman in her early 20s.

He was always punching. But still can't cut out behaviour like this.
And the age gap seems notable give the ages of his eye candy/wank fodder.

Oh, sorry I've realised the 17 yr old DD I'd your daughter, his step daughter so he looks like he was childless when you got into a relationship, and he got together with an 11 yrs younger single Mum.

Most of my take still stands though.

This.

Bizarre that men seem to think women having an issue with this always stems from jealousy.

For me I wouldn't be jealous, I would just think it pathetic and grubby for a bloke to be following accounts like that especially when they do it publicly. It's really cringey.

It would give me the ick and turn me off, not make me jealous!

It is so normalised now though isn't it? Aging actors dating young models in skimpy bikinis. How old is Leonardo Di Caprio again? I couldn't get past this OP. My ex cheated on me with someone a lot younger and who looked and acted even younger. He disgusts me.

I feel awful for you. I found my ex following the same kind of people. It gave me the ick and I couldn't even listen to him breathe in the end up. I tried to stay but, alongside everything else, I couldn't. Sending love 💕

I swear I must be a man in the way I think.

All these other woman are completely overreacting imo.

Really wouldn't bother me that much.Meh. I like to look at half naked pictures of Zac Effron. Doesn't mean I don't love my husband and his little dad bod!

I like to look at half naked pictures of Zac Effron.

But that's not the equivalent of what ops h has been doing.

And is ZE not in his 30s?

My h watches porn minimally/in moderation as a masturbatory aid (and so do I for that matter).

He rarely used Twitter and follows Football/Sports accounts and two guy he knows from uni.

Don't talk sh*te.

Out of interest coastal how old are you ?
youd feel fine with your 45yr old partner jerking off to 18 yrs olds ? How bout if you had an 18 yr old daughter
and lastly big difference beteeen looking at a movie star and saying oh their good looking to an almost 40-50 yr old man USING naked images of those half his age

@CoastalWave

and ftr , I dont think a man who condones jerking off to girls half his age who are barely adults is ‘ thinking like a man ‘ I believe he’s ‘ thinking like a creep’

Sorry for you that you believe this

There are plenty of quality guys out there who don’t.

And even if they do @YourBestie does that make it acceptable?

If you're fine with this in your relationship, cool. But please dont Set your boundaries, by someone saying 'but everyone else does it'.

Seems like the kind of man who leaves a woman once they get to 40, for a woman in their 20s. For as long as he can get away with it.

Plenty of male actors seem to do this, for example.

Seems like a lot of men would do this if they had the opportunity.

No they don't.

Fucksake.

Solipsistic mansplaining at its finest.
OP isn't asking if HER HUSBAND is unhappy. Like it's somehow HER responsibility that he is perving over teenagers.
She is stating that SHE is unhappy. because he perves over teenagers.

Yet you jump straight to minimising & deflecting.
"It isn't unusual" is whataboutery bullshit. Lots of things are not unusual - because lots of people are shits. Doesn't make it right. Doesn't mean it's something OP should tolerate.
You reckon he "may not be seeking to cheat" as if that's some kind of Get Out of Jail Free card. Like that's the only boundary OP is allowed to balk at.

Here's news @Anothernick - women don't have to tolerate men being "a bit creepy" AKA - deliberately finding naked teenagers to perve over. Women don't have to care if men who perve over teenagers are "happy". Women don't need to wait to be cheated on before they call men out on their porn-addled bullshit.

Have you asked your 17 year old how he is with her? I would be concerned about his taste for teenagers when he lives with one he’s not related to. He could have a pre-existing interest in teens porn, or it could be that her presence is turning him on so he’s looking for similarly aged women to wank over.

I would also check for hidden cameras in the girls’ rooms and bathrooms just in case.

They don’t though because 20something women don’t want baggy middle-aged men.