DH following naked women on Twitter half his age

[RainbowsMoonbeams]

Had a bit of a shock this morning. Something struck me about the way my DH is so secretive with his phone, and I decided to look on his Twitter account. I used to be on there, but closed my account a few years ago.

He follows loads of accounts with young women aged 21-26. He is 47 (I am 36). They all have their boobs out in their photos , some are exposing even more/ fully naked. I am devastated - he is old enough to be their dad and we have a 17 year old and 11 year old daughters. I feel creeped out he has been seeking out these young womens profiles to follow. Many say they are at uni and have only fans accounts too (though he swears he has not been on there)

There is the odd attractive woman he is following who is fully clothed too - nothing in common with them, which makes me wonder what his motives are, though he swears he hasn’t sent any DMs

I just feel so ugly - I am 39 weeks pregnant with our unplanned (but much wanted) baby.

Is this my hormones? Or am I right to be upset?

@Anothernick
just to clarify , if a man in his 40s ,50s or even older is looking at 18 or 19 year olds what makes you think he wouldn’t be looking at young girls he actually knows in the same way
many women have daughters and grabdaughters and simply don’t want to be with that type of sleazy guy.

It's the way I'd see him now that would probably be the deal breaker rather than the act itself.
As you say it would totally repulse me and put me off big time, this is meant to be your birth partner, the father to your children etc and you now see him as this sneaky masterbating, creepy guy who likes young women

Ugh men are so pathetic with this stuff. Not all men. My friends 48 year old husband is always making her feel like crsp because he's on tik tok watching women.

My last boyfriend was 15 years older than me and obsessed with women. He was following pages of young women in their 20s on fb.
Even with me in his life he still needed to look.

I don't believe men can change if this is them. I believe most men look but some keep their mature head on and don't behave like teenagers but there's a bug group of men in their 40s and 50s who will have no shame checking out a sexy young mid 20s year old.

I'm 33 and I would feel a complete creep looking at any man below 25 and yo be honest I wouldn't even date someone below 28!

@Chapter111
‘I'm 33 and I would feel a complete creep looking at any man below 25 and yo be honest I wouldn't even date someone below 28!’

i hear you . It’s so icky when hearing about these older men checking out teenagers . I couldn’t dream of perving on some guy that age in a million years , wouldn’t matter what he looked like .

Why do so many people normalise slimy, creepy shit men? I just couldn't be with somebody who followed young women on SM. It's just pathetic.

Yes, I said to him how would he feel if I had an account full of naked 19 year old men with big penises out.

He wasn’t just following a small number of accounts, but 50 naked women accounts and a handful of random clothed attractive women too.

I am certainly not a control freak - he has had female work friends he would text and go for lunch with - that’s fine, but perving at 19 year olds? Yuck.

This type of behaviour is entrenched in many men. They are addicted to the dopamine rush of perving over young women.

They won't change because they don't want to change.

He's DISGUSTING! You have the ick now.. it won't leave you. GET RID.

Yes. Many men aren't like this, but the ones who are.. will always be like this.
And no matter who they are with.. Their eyes will be seeking out young flesh. They could be with the most beautiful actress. They will make whoever they are with insecure forever.

Of course you're a man with an answer like that.
Maybe this thread will show you how women think about it?
We don't care if it means he won't cheat, or still loves us.. it doesn't matter. It's a disgusting trait and ruins them in our eyes.

Its actually quite incredible that men think it worries women because we think they will cheat
Women are smart enough to know most of them havnt a hope in hell of getting with a young women they perv on and if they did they would soon be dumped after the money ran out… or when the women realised what they were like.
Some of them just don’t seem to get that it’s completely slimey and creep and makes the women they are with lose any respect for them

It's disgusting especially when he has a stepdaughter of similar age as the women he follows. I'd be concerned he would be leering over her friends, makes my skin crawl. Sorry that you are dealing with this op

You should bin him for downright stupidity. In what world did he think it was a good idea to indulge in his fuckwittery on a public forum.

You deserve so much better than that. I'm so sorry. At least you don't have to snoop - it's all there and undeniable.

Although a suspicious mind might conclude if he's happy to do that in public - what on earth does he do in private?

God knocking on 50 and searching for naked teens and likely tossing off to it. That would give me the ick that I couldn’t recover from.

No it isn't unusual, but a man in his 40s/50s looking at barely legal girls is very different to him looking at women in their 30s and 40s.

Yeah it's hilarious how he misses the point entirely.

Would he (or other men) miss the point in the sane way if it was their partner following accounts of young, buff, six packed, hung fitness models and male escorts and porn actors etc??

I don't think so.

Or even if they were ok with it (doubt it), that doesn't mean their partner is the type of person to be ok with it, they'd have different values.

Yeah, not without paying.

And the only reason (if it's a platform that requires accepting them as a follower or "friend") they'd accept them or communicate with them, would be wanting to increase their hits, followers and subscribers.

My friends 48 year old husband is always making her feel like crsp because he's on tik tok watching women.

I'd sit beside him eat hung tiktoks of Joel Bushby or similar.

See his reaction then.

Or get rid of him.

Since tit,no pun intended, for tat is sad and doesn't really solve the problem.

*watching tiktoks of Joel Bushby and similar

*Since tit,no pun intended, for tat is sad and doesn't really solve the problem.

Although watching videos of Joel Bushby will probably cheer her up a lot 😂

Now that I think about it more, that particular fitness model isbt even a good equivalent because he's in his 30s and age appropriate for many women .... He's not a teen or early 20s; who h is a large part of the issue here

If a woman were following buff young guys, you g enough pretty much to be their son's or step sons; it would even worse.

And alongside that, these foolish men don't even consider that men that young - a portion of them anyway - will actually shag older women for NSA sex. The mild checkbox is a common one for you v men. They'd have opportunities than these men would never have without paying through the nose.

Thanks everyone. I have been looking at divorce.

Can’t believe I am looking at divorce a month before Christmas, and at 39 weeks pregnant.

Like others have said - how can you recover from this type of ‘ick’? It will always be there. Probably just get better at sneaking it into his life somehow.

I can’t be with a man who has zero respect for me, or clearly women in general. No way. 😔

He is so sorry. In tears. The fucker wasn’t upset when he was doing this behind my back until I knew.

*the Milf check box is a common one for young men

Pretty much all men do this/ watch porn etc.