New Woman in my Life is Confusing Me

[highselfesteem]

i met this girl and she was flirting with me intensely and trying to get me and get my attention. i am 28 and shes 28. i wasnt really that into her at first but we went on some dates. when i started going on dates with her, her tune changed and she began putting her bag in between of us and talking about other men. like she would show me pics of her going to las vegas with her ex bf and began texting another guy blatantly in front of me. she doesnt respond to my txts always and if i ask her why she didnt respond to me she says things "i dont respond when im in the company of good people" she mentions how she is also seeing another guy and how she comes over to her house and he makes her orange juice and how he has a lot of money. she follows me, unfollows me, and follows me again on social media. when she follows me, she watches every single one of my stories. i went to see her at work today at the taco truck she works at and joked with her that she should text me to come over every time shes working and to give me 50% discount she responded saying "you will never receive such a text from me even i dont get a 50% discount" how do u perceive her behavior toward me? what should i do about her?

And why do you want to date her?!?

I didnt at the very start but she kind of seduced me down the road but now she is withdrawing but not completely leaving me alone. I dont get it.

Just fuck her off, sounds like a nutter

What makes you think she is crazy and this is not just a game she plays with new guys?

Move on.
Dating should be fun.

Mate, that behaviour is crazy.

Or lets use the word unhealthy, since "crazy" has some unpleasant overtones towards people with genuine mental health issues.

This woman is acting in a way that's designed to keep you jealous and insecure. Do you think that's the behaviour of someone who will make a loving long-term partner?

She's not a nice person. Walk away.

Yea, you are right that shes trying to keep me jealous and insecure. I dont know whats really going on with the guys. Maybe she shows my pictures to them. Lol. But why does she want me jealous and insecure? How does that help her date me?

This sounds like you are 18 ffs!! She sounds toxic, immature and desperate, move on.

She friend zoned you in the beginning, and now she's un -zoning you completely. Walk away and find someone else.

How did she friend zone me? She was all over me in the beginning.

And you're all 28? I though this was about teenagers! Sack her off, she's not into you.

Don't be a mug OP.

Forget about her

I think theres one important fact I omitted. She told me that she went to vegas with her ex bf and now shes telling me theres guy Mark who likes her a lot and who she spends time with her and texts her a lot. She says she just met Mark. I asked for Mark's full name and looked him up and he posted a video of him being in Las Vegas at the same time when she was with her ex. Do you think this is just coincedental or do you think there is more history to this Mark guy?

Aye, right.

You're not into her. You're just into the chase. You weren't interested initially, but because she showed signs of disinterest, you're all over it. Classic.

If she stops behaving like this and starts devoting herself to you instead, I guarantee you'll no longer be into her.

She didnt appeal to me too much at first. She was coming on kind of strong, didnt seem attractive to me at first, and I tend to date hotter women generally. But the other guys really pissed me off. You are right. Do you think she ever had genuine interest in me or just wants my money or something?

Oh bloody hell. Now she's ugly and she might just want your money!! 😂

I reckon she obviously liked you enough at the start if she was flirting with you a lot. But if you weren't that into it, she could probably sense it and so backed off and decided to start seeing other guys.

Like you say, her seeing other guys has annoyed you. Classic game of men enjoying the chase. I'd move on and find someone who you are actually interested in, rather than someone you're interested in chasing due to her being a challenge at this moment.

Don't eat any more of her tacos. 🌮 🌮 🌮 🌮

please don’t waste your time trying to understand her motivations, say goodbye; and look to meet someone who genuinely appreciates you! This is not the woman for you.

Stop acting like a desperate teenager and cut her off your life. She's playing with you and you are acting pathetically allowing it

Actually you sound perfect for each other! She's after your money and you're just interested in looks. Both sound superficial.

1. She's 28, so a woman not a girl.
2. You're 28, use capital letters.