New Woman in my Life is Confusing Me

[highselfesteem]

i met this girl and she was flirting with me intensely and trying to get me and get my attention. i am 28 and shes 28. i wasnt really that into her at first but we went on some dates. when i started going on dates with her, her tune changed and she began putting her bag in between of us and talking about other men. like she would show me pics of her going to las vegas with her ex bf and began texting another guy blatantly in front of me. she doesnt respond to my txts always and if i ask her why she didnt respond to me she says things "i dont respond when im in the company of good people" she mentions how she is also seeing another guy and how she comes over to her house and he makes her orange juice and how he has a lot of money. she follows me, unfollows me, and follows me again on social media. when she follows me, she watches every single one of my stories. i went to see her at work today at the taco truck she works at and joked with her that she should text me to come over every time shes working and to give me 50% discount she responded saying "you will never receive such a text from me even i dont get a 50% discount" how do u perceive her behavior toward me? what should i do about her?

Look it up.

She doesn't want to be with you and your updates are starting to push you over into stalker territory. Walk away.

Do you anticipate that she will go back to trying to flirt with me now or do you think she will just move on for good at this point?

You both sound like losers from this. Get some self respect and find a woman who isn't some narcissist playing men off against each other for kicks.

How am I being a stalker?

Look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Her playing games is to draw you in. Her mentioning other guys is triangulation. Stay away. It’s intriguing but it’s called sociopathy.

Ditch her and don’t look back

I asked for Mark's full name and looked him up

^^
Shes not that into you anymore.

Whats the end game for her with getting all men in her life pissed off at each other?

End game? Well a person like that has no empathy. They genuinely can not even sense what you may be feeling. Not do they care. They want attention. They live off it. So she’s trying to put out there she is so desirable and you would be so lucky to have her. People like her cheat with anybody. Again, because once they have you they are satisfied with it for a bit but they need attention all over again, At 28 you are at your prime. Seriously 😒 don’t waste time on this. They have a strong desire to control too, erupt easily, blame everything on others. It’s the pits. Don’t confuse brain fog for love.

Should I anticipate problems if I continue to date her? Will she move on quickly if I stop talking to her?

Why would you need to anticipate problems when you currently have nothing but problems? Forget anticipating look at your present

This is a mess, walk away.

Seriously I would run. Remember: don’t confuse brain fog and lies with love. Both give us a boost of a sort. But they are vastly different and play out very differently.

Good God. She's messing with all of you OP to feed her mad, manipulative ego. Leave now and find someone non-cruel, non- toxic and faithful.

whats brain fog?

Oh ffs! You only want her because the other guy has made you weirdly competitive! You've said she's not up to your standard looks wise, if this other bloke wasn't in the picture you wouldn't even be arsed. You sound like a couple of Gorillas competing for the attention of a female.
Grow the hell up.

Get a grip, she's a time waster and not really in to you. Just likes the attention! Fuck her off and get someone genuinely interested in you!

OP you're 28. You're talking like a 15 year old.

Stop trying to analyse and predict her behaviours. It doesn't matter WHY she is game playing, maybe she gets a kick out of it. Who the fuck knows and what difference would it make if you did know why?

If you want to be paranoid, insecure and whiney carry on as you are. Or do the sensible thing and cut her out of your life.

What makes you think that gameplaying is any better than craziness?

Are you normally attracted to gameplaying women?

Whenever you date someone new & they confuse you - dump them.
If the relationship is right for you, you will not feel confused.

I dont give a shit about this Mark guy but FAR more importantly - neither should you.

Why are you engaging in her games?
Are you not exhausted & pissed off?
Just finish it already. And then block her.

Also - you are 28. You should already know this behaviour is bad news.
Your job here is NOT to try to understand it - your job is to walk away from it.

Read ChumpLady & get yourself educated -
www.chumplady.com/?s=pick+me+dance

I tend to date hotter women generally.

awwww OP you poor little sausage.

You know all that advice & signposting I kindly took time to offer you?
Well - try to forget it.
And fuck off while you're doing it.

Best laugh today 🤣 quality

I like women who are a little on the wild end.

Are you sure you're 28?

Do you like women who have a BF already? Sounds like competition interests you - a bit sad that is.
She was all over you 1 night because either, she'd had a temporary fall-out with her BF (Mark) or, he'd cheesed her off by going out with his mates or another woman and she was getting her own back ar the time. Either way, she was using you to massage her ego.
Someone says another is interested, correct reply would be " go for him then".

She's a bitch. Get rid or she will destroy you.