New Woman in my Life is Confusing Me

[highselfesteem]

i met this girl and she was flirting with me intensely and trying to get me and get my attention. i am 28 and shes 28. i wasnt really that into her at first but we went on some dates. when i started going on dates with her, her tune changed and she began putting her bag in between of us and talking about other men. like she would show me pics of her going to las vegas with her ex bf and began texting another guy blatantly in front of me. she doesnt respond to my txts always and if i ask her why she didnt respond to me she says things "i dont respond when im in the company of good people" she mentions how she is also seeing another guy and how she comes over to her house and he makes her orange juice and how he has a lot of money. she follows me, unfollows me, and follows me again on social media. when she follows me, she watches every single one of my stories. i went to see her at work today at the taco truck she works at and joked with her that she should text me to come over every time shes working and to give me 50% discount she responded saying "you will never receive such a text from me even i dont get a 50% discount" how do u perceive her behavior toward me? what should i do about her?

Exactly this!

Unforgettablefire how can she destroy me?

When I first met her, she didnt have an official "bf". However she was strangely still going on trips with her "ex bf". I have an intuition she moved from out of town to date Mark and then went to Vegas with him.

I didnt show much interest in her on the first date and she began first saying "oh I am gonna go on a date with a guy in a few days". After that, she escalated and the "perfect soul mate" Mark came around.

I think it is hard to tell if she actually likes him or not. She may be living with him and looking for other guys for all I know - and then using him to show other guys they have options. But the only things I really know about Mark are that (1) he was in Vegas around same time as her; and that (2) they text each other a lot in front of me and he sends her (clothed) pictures of himself in front of her. For all I know, Mark could be "friend zoned" or just some dude who chases her. I think theres a degree of mystery in this situation. Wouldnt you say?

This comes from a woman old enough to be your mum.
She likes being chased,
She has no real liking for you, but will keep you around in case no one else can stop her being alone.
Life with this woman would be HELL.
This woman will CHEAT on you, she already is...
Walk away and find someone who thinks you matter.

Should I anticipate problems if I continue to date her

You already have problems, otherwise you wouldn't be posting here.

Why are you psychoanalysing someone who is already confusing the hell out of you?

Why aren't you walking away? Do you not think you could find someone you felt good with, and understood?

You really arnt very bright are you. This woman will much you around till the cows come home. Good luck your gonna need it.

I had sympathy until you started going on about getting 'hotter women generally' ... you thought you were above her. Shes triangulating and negging you. Why does she do it if she wants to date you? Well you went from initially dismissive, to now being in a total tail spin. Seems to have worked pretty well from where I'm standing.

She said! He said! Boring! Zzzzzzzzz

Why are you giving it so much head space. Forget about her and move on, she is not right for you.

Because sane people don't play games with people they are dating. Let alone games that paint them as crazy dickheads.

You sound a lot like a cuckold who just wants to talk about his fantasies tbh.

The confusion That’s confusing you.

So you asked if she would move on quickly. Very likely she would Practice something called silent treatment, as a way of getting you involved again. It’s a really handy tactic narcs love. Basically it puts the other person into a spin and wanting to please them to win back their attention. She’s probably been doing this a little bit, but we haven’t quite grasped it. So it makes you want her more. It’s really sick. Good luck anyway, but seriously what you need to think about is what having kids with someone like this would be like. Awful,