Dirty sheets cheating boyfriend

[Comfusedaf]

So,I went to my boyfriends after not seeing him for 2 weeks . (He lives 40 miles away ) . I noticed there was sperm stains in his bed. It looked like someone had sperm rubbed on their vagina and they'd sat on the edge of the bed and left a imprint. When I questioned what it was he said "food". I argued that wasn't food and I'm not stupid and we both know full well what it is.
He then said it was his friend as his friend had the keys to his house as he stores his bike there. Apparently his friend admitted it and said sorry. I wanted proof of this as it was my boyfriends bed,not his . Apparently I'm weird for wanting confirmation it was his friend . And that I'm a bitch and he's finishing me as I clearly don't trust him. Just want to say he text a prostitute for a price list at beginning of our relationship when he was back at home so this is where my doubts are coming from. Surely if you were innocent you'd save a 2 year relationship. Advice please. Sorry if it's tmi I just need other people's opinions on this .

"Text a brass" How disgusting for a woman to call another woman that name.

Anyone noticed how OP language is becoming more disgusting by the reply..

Yes.
OP is not in the least distressed that her sleazeman uses prostitutes.
Just distressed that he cheated on her by doing it.

I feel zero sisterly solidarity for her.

So, he wants you to believe that his friend stopped by to drop off his bike, and then had an urge to get in to your boyfriend's bed and spunk all over it, and then your boyfriend decided to sleep in those sheets? Who are these people?

I don't care about my language. The shock is wearing off now and the anger is starting to kick on so yes it will reflect in my language . Feeling a lot of mixed emotions right now

Well I don't beleeeeve you OP But hey nice try

That's fine 😊

For all you none believers . This was the last messages I sent him before I blocked him. It's a serious fucking matter

You're so sad 😂😂😂

Riiiiight ...

So you are blocking & then unblocking him (lastworditis?) - & STILL hanging round issuing ultimatums, on the offchance he can convince his mate to take the fall, & you can carry on pretending he didn't cheat?

Just like you pretended he didn't use prostitutes?

Why are you still playing mindgames with this lowlife?
Just block already, stop responding to anything he says. delete him off all social media, & get on with your life.

If you can't do that, you're hanging on to the filthy fucker because you're addicted to drama.

Clearly says those messages were on the 17th November few days after I found the offending stains
Gave him a few days to prove himself but didn't so he's completely blocked now . Has been since 17th

So yeah, you block & unblock, using it to try & score points/wrest control.

It's really not how blocking works.
Do it - or don't do it - & mean it. Don't blow hot & cold with it, it negates the entire purpose.

Have you at least given up any notion that your EX is a decent man now?
Will you avoid men who use prostitutes in future?
Have you spend any time researching the % of prostitutes who are coerced/abused/trafficked?

What's with the interrogating questions ?😂😂😂 Are you a prossie or something because it's all you've been going on about ? Taking it a bit too personal you

What's with the interrogating questions ?😂😂😂 Are you a prossie or something because it's all you've been going on about ? Taking it a bit too personal you

You posted for advice, it's customary for PP to ask establishing questions so they can adapt their advice. I asked the question more than once because you have signally avoided answering it - you still haven't.

Far from taking it personally, my concern is far broader - the women who are being abused by arseholes like the scumbag you gave 3 years of your life to. Despite knowing that he pays women to shag him, with no concern whatsover about the circumstances that brought them to prostitution, & who might be coercing them.

So I'm exactly as sympathetic about your Porny Shroud of Turin as you are about the women your scumbag paid to fuck - i.e. not at all.

Of course it was him STD check and dump

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It's not to adapt for advice at all . You're just hell bent on me looking up prostitution and the things these women go through. Why you're so bothered I don't know. Get gone

You're just hell bent on me looking up prostitution and the things these women go through. Why you're so bothered I don't know. Get gone

No - you are hell bent on NOT doing so, on not giving a shit, & on shagging low lifes then being All Surprised when they also act like a low life toward you.

You were never bothered by your b/f's prostitute use until his sleaziness had an impact on YOU. Good luck with your next bellend if you don't take time out to fathom why your standards are so low.

Raise. Your. Standards.

I already know women are kidnapped , trafficked and held against their will and forced into this. I don't need educating. I've seen plenty of documentaries. However,some also do it to pay their uni fees or drug addictions. It's not always sinister. Some are by choice you know. And of course I was bothered 🤦 would be ridiculous if I wasn't. I was just naive at the time and believed he never went through with it. Who are you to tell me what I am and am not bothered about . Are you a mind reader?Do you have a crystal ball ? Madness

@Comfusedaf

You don't need to put your personal messages for the stupid people who don't believe you.

Plus you also DO NOT need to keep explaining yourself on MN.

You came on here like everyone does and no one took photos of their person convo or took photos to proof anything.

You need to leave this guy alone. It's disgusting you actually slept on the bed then finding that next morning.

You do deserve better just don't even have no conversation with him now.

He won't admit anything.

You're right . It's such a extreme thing it seems like a lot of people called it bullshit from the start . Also getting told to educate myself on prostitutes,even though it wasn't me who arranged for illicit sex. I'm the bad guy from the start here to some people when all I wanted were outside opinions on whether I was being unreasonable or if my concerns were right and he had cheated. I haven't spoke to him since those messages and don't plan on doing as this was the nail in the coffin. He apparently rang his friend when I wasn't there,don't know why he didn't do it Infront of me . Just screams guilty to me 🤦

It's possible he could have created cum stains on his sheets all by himself - ball prints rather than vag?

If the stains have come from another woman, it won't be a prostitute because they'd insist he wore a condom.

Whatever has or hasn't gone on you don't trust him so the relationship was beyond repair anyway. Most women would have wretched and dumped when they discovered he'd been in contact with prostitutes the first time.

@Comfusedaf

I would ignore the horrible comment here.

I do think you been giving some great advice still.

But always follow your gut feeling as no one knows this guy you do.

I believe you OP, I know exactly the very distinctive mark you're on about
You've done the right thing cutting him off
Hes a nasty disgusting liar

Thankyou so much. I'll mope about it for a week or 2 then I'll be 100% over it