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Dirty sheets cheating boyfriend

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Comfusedaf · 18/11/2022 23:34

So,I went to my boyfriends after not seeing him for 2 weeks . (He lives 40 miles away ) . I noticed there was sperm stains in his bed. It looked like someone had sperm rubbed on their vagina and they'd sat on the edge of the bed and left a imprint. When I questioned what it was he said "food". I argued that wasn't food and I'm not stupid and we both know full well what it is.
He then said it was his friend as his friend had the keys to his house as he stores his bike there. Apparently his friend admitted it and said sorry. I wanted proof of this as it was my boyfriends bed,not his . Apparently I'm weird for wanting confirmation it was his friend . And that I'm a bitch and he's finishing me as I clearly don't trust him. Just want to say he text a prostitute for a price list at beginning of our relationship when he was back at home so this is where my doubts are coming from. Surely if you were innocent you'd save a 2 year relationship. Advice please. Sorry if it's tmi I just need other people's opinions on this .

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 14:31

CovertImage · 19/11/2022 12:37

Is there any such thing as a vagina imprint? Is it along the same lines as making a stamp with half a potato?

Yes it was basically like 2 half a potatoes and a line in-between them. Fully white. So visible on black bedsheets. I'm getting so much hate on here due to it but unless you'd seen it yourself it's hard to describe. I never knew it was possible until I seen it with my own eyes 🤦 suppose there's a first time for everything. Grim 🤢

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MrsDanversGlidesAgain · 19/11/2022 14:45

It was black bottom bed sheets

Jeez, I'd dump him for that.

cushioncovers · 19/11/2022 14:56

Your vagina is inside you - so are you saying someone has left an imprint of their Vulva, in spunk, on his bedsheets - like a porny Shroud of Turin?

Yes that's exactly what the op is saying.

Dump him op.

BigChesterDraws · 19/11/2022 15:23

he was clearly gaslighting me

he “clearly” wasn’t. At most he as lying. He may even have been telling the truth.

A 2-year relationship with someone who goes home to mummy when he gets bored is probably not worth saving, if it ever existed. It doesn’t sound like much of a relationship.

makenomistake · 19/11/2022 15:25

Seriously!? Far too much information!

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 15:48

BigChesterDraws · 19/11/2022 15:23

he was clearly gaslighting me

he “clearly” wasn’t. At most he as lying. He may even have been telling the truth.

A 2-year relationship with someone who goes home to mummy when he gets bored is probably not worth saving, if it ever existed. It doesn’t sound like much of a relationship.

He clearly was gaslighting. Got caught out and called me crazy for wanting proof then ended it to avoid responsibility. And your right ,it's not worth saving. Very childish mindset to go stay at your mum's age 34. Time to move on

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gemsandmilk · 19/11/2022 15:52

That is a Poirot-level image

Dirty sheets cheating boyfriend
Melonapplepear · 19/11/2022 15:56

Can't think why you want to save it tbh. Sounds awful.

KettrickenSmiled · 19/11/2022 16:00

He clearly was gaslighting. Got caught out and called me crazy for wanting proof then ended it to avoid responsibility.

He clearly wasn't.
He's a dirtbag, & he lied to you, but you don't seem to know what gaslighting means. It is a pattern of repeated behaviour, deliberately contrived to undermine, confuse & destabilise a victim.

What your prince did was knee-jerk denial & redirection.
Yiou have not been gaslit, just lied to.

Anyway, glad you finally realise he's not worth dating.

Sniffypete · 19/11/2022 16:07

serenaisaknobhead · 19/11/2022 00:58

Just want to say he text a prostitute for a price list at beginning of our relationship.

If you chose to stay with him after the above it's your own fault.

Yeah I agree with this.

layladomino · 19/11/2022 16:10

Of course he is lying. You know he's happy to lie to you, as he's done it before. He also has form for blaming 'a friend' when he's caught out.

WHY would a friend borrow his bed to sleep with someone?
WHY would he not wash the sheets even if a friend had done that (really weird) thing?
WHY would he not tell you the truth when you first asked, if it was his friend who did it?

He has had unprotected sex with another woman.
He couldn't even be bothered to wash his sheets, knowing there was evidence there for you to see. Which means he doesn't care what you think, so he either a) wanted to split up with you and knew this would create that opportunity or b) thinks you're daft enough to stick around if he cheats.

Show him you know you're worth more. Block him. Don't contact him again for anything. Don't take his calls.

He's shown you more than once (it sounds like it's fairly regular) that he isn't to be trusted, is flakey and not that bothered about you. Show your daughter that when someone doesn't treat you with respect, you walk away with your head high.

IsThePopeCatholic · 19/11/2022 16:12

Oh God. Some people …

KettrickenSmiled · 19/11/2022 16:17

he either a) wanted to split up with you and knew this would create that opportunity or b) thinks you're daft enough to stick around if he cheats.

It's b)
2 years ago, OP as good as told him she's fine about him shagging sex workers.

This is her reward for her ... open-mindedness.

Aprilx · 19/11/2022 16:27

Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 01:09

Absolutely mental isn't it! Couldn't believe my eyes! And was just wanting other people's opinions as he was clearly gaslighting me making me feel like the crazy one for wanting proof if was his friend 🤦 wanted to know if I was being unreasonable as that's how he's made me feel or what would anyone else would do in this situation

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I am afraid I am also baffled as to what sperm rubbed on a vagina means and how you clearly recognise what an imprint of such on a bedsheet would look like. And actually yes it is pretty weird to want proof from the friend, are you planning to get him round and force him to identify his semen stains?

Your boyfriend is a cheating prick with no respect for women, you sound a bit odd with your vaginal imprints and I do not understand why you stuck with a man despite knowing he is happy to use prostitutes.

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 16:37

KettrickenSmiled · 19/11/2022 16:17

he either a) wanted to split up with you and knew this would create that opportunity or b) thinks you're daft enough to stick around if he cheats.

It's b)
2 years ago, OP as good as told him she's fine about him shagging sex workers.

This is her reward for her ... open-mindedness.

I didn't say I was fine with it. Far from it. He just said he text them off a website called viva street but never went through with it so stupid me believed him and gave him another chance

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MyTabbyCats · 19/11/2022 16:41

Urgh just the fact that he hadn’t changed his sheets in anticipation of you staying would be enough for me to end this relationship.

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 16:45

layladomino · 19/11/2022 16:10

Of course he is lying. You know he's happy to lie to you, as he's done it before. He also has form for blaming 'a friend' when he's caught out.

WHY would a friend borrow his bed to sleep with someone?
WHY would he not wash the sheets even if a friend had done that (really weird) thing?
WHY would he not tell you the truth when you first asked, if it was his friend who did it?

He has had unprotected sex with another woman.
He couldn't even be bothered to wash his sheets, knowing there was evidence there for you to see. Which means he doesn't care what you think, so he either a) wanted to split up with you and knew this would create that opportunity or b) thinks you're daft enough to stick around if he cheats.

Show him you know you're worth more. Block him. Don't contact him again for anything. Don't take his calls.

He's shown you more than once (it sounds like it's fairly regular) that he isn't to be trusted, is flakey and not that bothered about you. Show your daughter that when someone doesn't treat you with respect, you walk away with your head high.

Yes that's true. Probably thought because he lied before and I genuinely believed him that he'd get away with it this time. Think he can pass blame on to other people. And thankyou I will do,need to set a example and show them never ever to put up with that sort of behaviour

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 16:46

Aprilx · 19/11/2022 16:27

I am afraid I am also baffled as to what sperm rubbed on a vagina means and how you clearly recognise what an imprint of such on a bedsheet would look like. And actually yes it is pretty weird to want proof from the friend, are you planning to get him round and force him to identify his semen stains?

Your boyfriend is a cheating prick with no respect for women, you sound a bit odd with your vaginal imprints and I do not understand why you stuck with a man despite knowing he is happy to use prostitutes.

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I don't know how it's weird that I wanted to see the proof for myself. If he denied it and his friend had apparently apologized to him, then surely he could prove his innocence by ringing his friend in front of me ? Seems like this wasn't the case though as it obviously wasn't his friend !

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happinessischocolate · 20/11/2022 01:01

It's simple

If you don't trust him then it's over

Doesn't matter if your wrong you'll always be second guessing. More on.

Find someone you do trust or enjoy being on your own (my option) but don't spend your valuable life second guess some twat

JessesMum777888 · 20/11/2022 01:11

I literally am getting sick in my mouth from this post 😂

stillvicarinatutu · 20/11/2022 01:27

Op . Dump him and walk away . Block . Delete the number . Never speak to him again .

Marineboy67 · 20/11/2022 04:42

Your vagina is inside you - so are you saying someone has left an imprint of their Vulva, in spunk, on his bedsheets - like a porny Shroud of Turin?
"Porny Shroud ofTurin" Sorry but that has to be the funniest thing I've ever read on Mumsnet...😆

Zanatdy · 20/11/2022 05:13

Sorry but if it was his friend he would have washed the sheets, he’s cheating

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Comfusedaf · 20/11/2022 06:28

happinessischocolate · 20/11/2022 01:01

It's simple

If you don't trust him then it's over

Doesn't matter if your wrong you'll always be second guessing. More on.

Find someone you do trust or enjoy being on your own (my option) but don't spend your valuable life second guess some twat

Yes you're right. Thankyou. I should of ended it at the prostitute situation as that's when the trust went for me . Hindsight is a wonderful thing 😩😩

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Frankola · 20/11/2022 15:58

He's cheated OP. And you know it. Ditch him. He's a total twerp