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Dirty sheets cheating boyfriend

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Comfusedaf · 18/11/2022 23:34

So,I went to my boyfriends after not seeing him for 2 weeks . (He lives 40 miles away ) . I noticed there was sperm stains in his bed. It looked like someone had sperm rubbed on their vagina and they'd sat on the edge of the bed and left a imprint. When I questioned what it was he said "food". I argued that wasn't food and I'm not stupid and we both know full well what it is.
He then said it was his friend as his friend had the keys to his house as he stores his bike there. Apparently his friend admitted it and said sorry. I wanted proof of this as it was my boyfriends bed,not his . Apparently I'm weird for wanting confirmation it was his friend . And that I'm a bitch and he's finishing me as I clearly don't trust him. Just want to say he text a prostitute for a price list at beginning of our relationship when he was back at home so this is where my doubts are coming from. Surely if you were innocent you'd save a 2 year relationship. Advice please. Sorry if it's tmi I just need other people's opinions on this .

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Shauna27 · 19/11/2022 01:21

Why would he be sleeping in the sheets that his friend supposedly soiled?

Quiegal · 19/11/2022 03:51

@Comfusedaf

It doesn't make sense he wouldn't even at least change the sheets.

The only other thing is that he not been sleeping in his own bed all week. Where would he have been?

But I am with most think he could have cheated. But then again he would of covered it up if he had cheated.

You must be suspicious of him anyway and that maybe confirmed what you already know.

Fancylike · 19/11/2022 04:53

Now you’ve said that he owns black bed sheets, you should have known he was a grot from the start. Ick.

But in seriousness, he’s cheated and is filthy too. I totally get the vag imprint too - it’s a distinctive mark!
Get rid and don’t look back, have a lovely weekend with your daughter.

Peteryougit · 19/11/2022 05:42

That is so disgusting. Even if it was his friends doing (which it wasn’t), he was happy to sleep in filthy sheets was he?

What a load of shit.

Dump him, wallow for a few weeks, move on. He’s a cheating, filthy, stupid dickhead.

somuchtolearnabout · 19/11/2022 05:47

It looked like someone had sperm rubbed on their vagina and they'd sat on the edge of the bed and left a imprint.

I stopped reading after this

Ladyof2022 · 19/11/2022 05:54

Darling, you are NOT the stupid one -- HE IS.

He's lost whatever you had because he was too stupid to change the sheet. More fool HIM.

You are well rid.

ffsnotagainandagain · 19/11/2022 06:47

He either cheated and didn't change the bed sheets (eew) or he is telling the truth and didn't change the bedsheets (even more eew) either way your better off without that dirty bastard

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 06:48

Shauna27 · 19/11/2022 01:21

Why would he be sleeping in the sheets that his friend supposedly soiled?

Apparently he didn't see it🤦

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 06:50

Quiegal · 19/11/2022 03:51

@Comfusedaf

It doesn't make sense he wouldn't even at least change the sheets.

The only other thing is that he not been sleeping in his own bed all week. Where would he have been?

But I am with most think he could have cheated. But then again he would of covered it up if he had cheated.

You must be suspicious of him anyway and that maybe confirmed what you already know.

He'd slept at his mum's a few times as he "gets bored being on his own"(his words !) but they'd had a argument so he had to go back to his flat.

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miltonj · 19/11/2022 06:51

Even if he's not cheated, he's still got gross bed sheets. You can do better!

IhateMattHancock · 19/11/2022 06:51

Black sheets. Yuck!

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 06:52

Fancylike · 19/11/2022 04:53

Now you’ve said that he owns black bed sheets, you should have known he was a grot from the start. Ick.

But in seriousness, he’s cheated and is filthy too. I totally get the vag imprint too - it’s a distinctive mark!
Get rid and don’t look back, have a lovely weekend with your daughter.

THANKYOU!! Someone who actually knows what I'm talking about . Definitely a distinctive mark. I'd never seen it before but there's no denying what it was! And thanks lovely we'll have a great weekend

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KangarooKenny · 19/11/2022 06:53

So it was food, then it was his mates sperm in his bed, then you’re a bitch and controlling. What a wholly unpleasant guy.

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 06:57

KangarooKenny · 19/11/2022 06:53

So it was food, then it was his mates sperm in his bed, then you’re a bitch and controlling. What a wholly unpleasant guy.

Crazy isn't it.
I just can't believe it's been twisted round on me like this and now his family are putting their 10ps worth in saying " I knew she'd start over this ". Wtf am I supposed to do? Keep quiet and carry on ? Don't think so. Not over something serious like this

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 07:13

Peteryougit · 19/11/2022 05:42

That is so disgusting. Even if it was his friends doing (which it wasn’t), he was happy to sleep in filthy sheets was he?

What a load of shit.

Dump him, wallow for a few weeks, move on. He’s a cheating, filthy, stupid dickhead.

I said this and he said he didn't see it🤦 ! And thankyou,you're right , I'll wallow for a few weeks then he'll just be a distant memory. I'm still in shock over it all to be honest. Not what I was expecting to see after traveling 40 miles. I'm glad I did see it though because who knows how long this would of gone on for

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KettrickenSmiled · 19/11/2022 11:37

Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 06:57

Crazy isn't it.
I just can't believe it's been twisted round on me like this and now his family are putting their 10ps worth in saying " I knew she'd start over this ". Wtf am I supposed to do? Keep quiet and carry on ? Don't think so. Not over something serious like this

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How do you know what his family are saying?
Are you following them on social media?
Why?

Just want to say he text a prostitute for a price list at beginning of our relationship when he was back at home so this is where my doubts are coming from.
So you were happy to date a man who pays sex workers, many of whom are coerced/abused/trafficked.
You're only unhappy when confronted with the evidence that he's cheated on you.

Stop dating scum who reckon they're entitled to buy "consent" from women without a care about what has brought these women into sex work.
There. Fixed that for you.

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Comfusedaf · 19/11/2022 12:02

KettrickenSmiled · 19/11/2022 11:37

How do you know what his family are saying?
Are you following them on social media?
Why?

Just want to say he text a prostitute for a price list at beginning of our relationship when he was back at home so this is where my doubts are coming from.
So you were happy to date a man who pays sex workers, many of whom are coerced/abused/trafficked.
You're only unhappy when confronted with the evidence that he's cheated on you.

Stop dating scum who reckon they're entitled to buy "consent" from women without a care about what has brought these women into sex work.
There. Fixed that for you.

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He told me what his family said. And he told me he text the prostitutes but never went through with it as he felt guilty and couldn't bring himself to do it.... Looking back,it was most probably lies given the evidence I seen.

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ExtraOnions · 19/11/2022 12:16

Am I the only person baffled by the “vagina imprint” … how much spunk is he producing .. and who is sitting on the edge if the bed she any of it drizzles out? What is a Vagina imprint ??

Your vagina is inside you - so are you saying someone has left an imprint of their Vulva, in spunk, on his bedsheets - like a porny Shroud of Turin?

I’ve been with my husband 20 years, he had a vasectomy years ago, so we don’t use any sort of protection .. and I have never potato printed my vulva on the sheets

TBH - the prostitution thing would have put me off, early doors.

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 19/11/2022 12:24

"My friend did it, I can't prove that" = "A big boy did it and ran away"
"My family have said oh no, knew she'd start over this" = "I'm gonna get my mum on you"

Leave this dirty cheater to his playground games.

CoffeandTiaMaria · 19/11/2022 12:29

Grim. Grubby. Repulsive.
🤢🤮

KettrickenSmiled · 19/11/2022 12:31

like a porny Shroud of Turin?
**
😂😂😂

CovertImage · 19/11/2022 12:37

Is there any such thing as a vagina imprint? Is it along the same lines as making a stamp with half a potato?

CovertImage · 19/11/2022 12:38

CovertImage · 19/11/2022 12:37

Is there any such thing as a vagina imprint? Is it along the same lines as making a stamp with half a potato?

Sorry, @ExtraOnions beat me to it :-)

CambsAlways · 19/11/2022 12:39

So he’s texted prostitutes and you still stayed with him! You are naive, raise the bar op

ShimmeringShirts · 19/11/2022 12:51

How would you even know what sperm rubbed on a vagina and the sheets look like? 🤢