I think of another man during sex.

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NC for this as it's so embarrassing. I have a crush it's never gone inappropriate. I don't message him outside of work or have cosy chats. It's just a crush ,I know he fancies me as well . I would never act on my feelings as it's wrong and would cause pain. I've known him for approximately 3 years.

I'm now having to think of this man to climax with my OH. My sex drive is low with my OH I think about him when I masturbate. It's driving me mad as I want to be happy with my OH.

I love my job is there any way over this apart from quitting ? (I love my job ) The crush has got more intense as time has gone on.

Wow. Following as this will be a can of worms to the MN mafia. On one hand it's a fantasy, no harm done etc, on the other hand, what if this was a man (sorry can't remember if I've presumed OP is female or stated as such) I'm pretty sure this would be tantamount to sleeping with an OW in the marital bed.

Queue questions; are you happy? How often do you have sex? Are you emotionally satisfies? Does your DH take care of your needs sexually, apart from the fantasy element does he do everything you'd like? Etc etc etc

You're an intern at the Daily Mail aren't you?

The sex could be better and I've repeatedly told him this and asked. He changes for a day then goes back to how it was. Otherwise I'm happy with our relationship, it's just fantasy. I've never shared how I felt or followed it up . I'm definitely not a DM intern I'm a long term poster.

All I can say to you is that it will pass. Crushes do not last forever, sometimes not for long. I'm sure many of us have been there. From what you say, your marriage seems sound but you are bored with the same old, same old. It happens. Later on things may improve.

Try to concentrate on another interest, maybe a hobby, or even your career which could involve another job. Life is full of possibilities and it isn't all about sex.

probably because your husband knows how to please you but can’t be bothered