Wondering if this man is just after sex and I've met another childish one, or are they all the same?

[Notaboutthebass]

I don't like talking naughty if we've not met yet/only just met.
I met a man for the first time today because I was enjoying our conversations by text. Very attentive and interested in me and my life/things I had to say.
I tend to self sabotage and I have ended short relationships when they've been childish. Am I a prude? All other conversations have been really enjoyable and respectful.
One screenshot is before we met, after we were talking about how we both love hugs. Other was tonight after we met.
He was very complimentary on our date and respectful.

If he blanked your comments I would say he was friend zoning you. He's matching your tone. He's interested in you following your lead. Maybe he's wondering the same about you.

He obviously likes you and is trying very hard .. I wouldn't overthink it .

It looks more like you leading the innuendo - you sound like you’re alluding to your lady garden.

But you turned the conversation 'risqué' ? He was following your lead?

I don't understand the issue?

You’re hugely complicit in instigating conversations with a man about showering and shaving and surprised the innuendo is emerging? How massively naive.
i think you need to see the role you play in this.

You were completely leading him with your comments, he just replied in the same manner, I would have read your messages the same way he did. You seem to be leading him into flirty comments, then getting pissed off with how he responds. You are the one staring the conversations that way, you're being ridiculous at being annoyed with how he has responded.

Poor bloke.

Nothing wrong with those texts

The ‘LOL’ is the most offensive part of his messages. I couldn’t continue with him after that.

I think you're overthink it, seems like harmless flirting and letting you know he's interested.

I don't actually think it's that bad and I'm very low tolerance of explicit texting from men you barely know. It's a bit flirty, but I think you're mirroring each other's energy in that regard.

Also it's not just 'sexual' messaging! He's saying to enjoy your family meal and in the last message about showering he makes that comment and then ends the conversation. In neither case is he trying to get you to engage in sexting as a cheap thrill for him. I'd say it's quite normal flirty messaging for two people who've met and presumably fancy each other a bit.

But that's just me OP. If it makes you uncomfortable then that's your boundary.

This with bells on.

If how you are behaving over this- ie instigating flirty, suggestive conversation then getting all faux naive “oh but I didn’t mean that, how dare he respond in such a manner?’ when he just matches your tone, is in any way reflective of how you behave in general, then I feel sorry for him, tbh and hope he realises it sooner rather than later.

It does look like you are leading it with comments about shaving and showering and the emojis.

They're gently flirtatious and I'd be happy with them but at the end of the day you know what you like and dislike. If the texting turns you off him then you're not obliged to keep meeting and texting him. Everybody's different.

Do you fancy him? If someone I fancied sent mildly suggestive messages (which these are) it would make me feel a bit giddy. If someone I didn't fancy sent me mildly suggestive messages id get the ick.

TBF, 'your texts were also quite leading IMO ' but you're a gentlemen, bet you smell lovely, my stubble' he was probably encouraged by you.....

Exactly!

Well of course he wants sex. That's why he's dating!

I think the conversation was a bit lame but not that bad.
If he keeps the constant innuendos up turning everything into sex, then that would be the ick.

Just take things very slow with him. No going back to yours or his or sex on the 3rd date type of thing. Slowly things down helps to weed out the time wasters who wanted a quick shag or two and then they're gone.

It's hardly a dick pic or explicit ffs. You sound prudish and looking for something to mark as a red flag so that you can ditch this guy tbh.

@Notaboutthebass you don't sound uptight. You sound flirty. It feels like his replies are a bit guarded, too. You're into him more than he's into you.

such shit chat. he sounds dull as dishwater with the innuendo

And ’young lady’ - my flaps would sew themselves shut

i don’t necessarily think he’s a sex maniac, just cringe

You both sound as bad as each other.

Thanks for the comments, even the funny ones!
To be brutally honest, I sometimes think I do it to test how sincere they are are but totally get that he could be thinking the same as me. Didn't think of it like that. He's made some really nice comments, on our date too and I told him how lovely I think he is, not because he did, but right at the start. We both agreed that the connection was there the minute we met, both couldn't stop grinning. Later I text saying I'd told my best mate about the date and he said he was still buzzing and couldn't wait to see me again, was blown away and he was glad I wasn't his dirty little secret. (I obviously assured him that he wasn't).
Regarding what the poster said about me being like that generally, I get your point. I think I do tend to be like that. I'm going to try not to be. I really like him, need to not sabotage!

That's why I couldn't do all the texting, really hard to gauge. I'd assume mildly flirty .