Wondering if this man is just after sex and I've met another childish one, or are they all the same?

[Notaboutthebass]

I don't like talking naughty if we've not met yet/only just met.
I met a man for the first time today because I was enjoying our conversations by text. Very attentive and interested in me and my life/things I had to say.
I tend to self sabotage and I have ended short relationships when they've been childish. Am I a prude? All other conversations have been really enjoyable and respectful.
One screenshot is before we met, after we were talking about how we both love hugs. Other was tonight after we met.
He was very complimentary on our date and respectful.

You set up both comments responding about shaving and showering.

If you want to keep the innuendo out of it, stay away from topics that lead to it.

I only said there was nothing better than a shower fresh feeling, that shouldn't mean anything sexual.

What's the problem - you're both flirting but now you're not happy with him flirting? Poor guy will have whiplash soon.

I think you’re being a bit disingenuous.

I’ve been OLD for 6 months now and I think it’s pretty tame! I got home from a date with a guy who seemed nice in person, then he got really crude..made a comment about having a play and releasing the tension…release it into me 🙄 amongst other things. I said I thought we wanted different things 😂 Yuck.
I think that’s just jokey flirtation and you could not respond or move the conversation on 🤷🏻‍♀️

You aren't that naive.

Him calling you a "young lady" is the ickiest part of the message exchange.

I don't really understand! You seem to be flirting & his response is wrong?

He asks you if you've had a nice family meal and you come back with nothing better than a shower bet you smell lovely 🤣

And you think it's him? 🤣

Yeah I shave my Mary but I said nothing encouraging.

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Hahaha 😅😅😘

But you encouraged both comments by your comments!

Agree. There is no good reason to be talking about personal hygiene with a stranger.

Surely there are thousands of topics of conversation while getting to know someone, that don't involve bodily functions and what you do in the bathroom.

Why even refer to bathing at all? Isn't there enough going on in the world that you could talk about something besides a reference to bathing?

To be frank if you don't want comments with a bit of innuendo then don't start topics about showering or shaving!!

Yeah I get you all I really do, think I'm out of practice!
We've talked about all sorts, I enjoy his conversations.

I got a mini-ick at the “a gentleman could read all sorts of connotations…” comment tbh.

By the end of that convo I got the full-on ick.

But I am a prude and don’t believe real “gentlemen” talk like that. I believe players do though.

You’ve met once and now he’s subtly turning the talk sexual which you’re uncomfortable with and trying to deflect.

Maybe be direct with him and ask him to dial the innuendo back a bit and see how he responds?

You’ve met once and now he’s subtly turning the talk sexual which you’re uncomfortable with and trying to deflec

Surely you can also infer that from the OPs posts?

Goodness I thought he'd have gone from 0-100 in explicit language, but it's more 1-5 at best!
A little flirting shows he's interested, just enjoy some banter and maybe a relationship blossoming!

No offence op, but lighten up and get a grip.

You sound a bit prudish.

Really. Chill out .

If you think that’s an issue you should seen some of my old messages with my DH … 😂

Ummmm you are the one hinting about your fanny and having a hot shower. You're taking the piss here aren't you?

Aye right 🙄

Worse than that are all the xx after every single message - why?

Seems fine, not overly explicit just gently suggestive and flirting. If you like him and he's attentive just go with it! At least he's making the effort to talk and not going hot cold and distant etc (well I assume this is the case)

Tbf reading other people's dating convos will always give you the ick. They aren't flirting with you.

And of course the convo isn't necessary exciting, they are at that phase where they just want to talk to each other all the time, but there isn't enough truly interesting things to talk about all day. Which is a good thing, and it seems mutual, so judgements about the quality of conversation, are just MN tosh.

But sorry OP, you absolutely started the flirting on both occasions!

Agree, both your comments could be seen a leading the conversation in a certain way.