we broke up when I was 6 months pregnant after his behaviour became cruel, pressuring me to move abroad when the baby was born, mocking me if I felt sick or needed to lie down after work… just generally unpleasant and moody. I confided in his friend and said I couldn’t cope with him, ex went crazy saying I had no right (I realise that now but I was desperate at the time for some help and thought his friend might talk some sense into him). We had a blazing row about it, I called him names, not blameless in the row, but the following day I went to work and when I got back he had called in sick to sort out changing the locks and dumping my stuff with my family. I spent the last few weeks trying to talk, apologising, asking to at least please make arrangements for the baby etc. I was totally heartbroken and confused as to why he wouldn’t even talk and then he asked via a solicitor for a dna test! I thought we were committed. I said I would do it but would want him to arrange with me rather than solicitors as I can’t afford a solicitor after having to buy all the baby stuff on my own. He hadnt replied until yesterday (7 weeks later) and just said ‘don’t want to know the child, don’t update me.’ And I presume he has now blocked me.
I feel so distraught and confused by it all. Why not bring up paternity when we were together? Why has he even asked that? Why not do the test if you’re unsure? Why cut off his own child that he was happy to have in the first 6 months of pregnancy? How can someone be so cold?
I am very worried about money but so scared to claim given how nasty he has been. Apparently he’s already told his friend he doesn’t think he’s the dad, I did everything for this man and the baby was conceived on a holiday I paid for for his birthday!! Feel confused and can’t understand any of it.