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Dp and me, advice needed please .

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Energyvampirelove · 05/11/2022 16:49

I am sorry this is a long one . I was a single parent who works and have always had my own money . My dad has lived with me for the last 6 years . I split up with my ex and after a few years I met my dp who was on the fringe of my social circle . He split up with he’s partner and became a single dad . He has he’s dd Tuesday and Wednesday nights and Friday till Sunday night . We dated for a long time then introduced children then after time we decided to move into together . He moved into my home and I have never been happier . He’s dd has been very hard work and her mum cannot control her behaviour . She screams constantly , takes over the house , my room all this is fair enough . My dp works full time at a good job I think about 45 k a year and an air bnb he rents out that he averages 3k a month for . He said he will contribute 500 to my rent and hasn’t never given anything else for utilities . He will go to the shop if I need something or do a big shop now and again . My dad feels I’m being taken for a mug , he has just had an offer accepted for another house that he is turning into an air bnb and my dad feels that everyone would be able to do this if they only had to contribute 500 a month to there loving situation . Dad says that he can leave me whenever and he has built himself up whilst I am paying everything . Also I work mornings at times and dad has got the children ready for school whilst dp has laid in bed and dad said how can a partner /stepdad not help ? Just need advice thank you .

OP posts:
Ofcourseshecan · 05/11/2022 21:18

I hadn’t even noticed your username, OP! I think you have a real one in your house ….

Energyvampirelove · 05/11/2022 21:51

My dad is amazing and a wonderful grandfather . We live very happily together and I fully take on board what he has said . Thank you to everyone who has commented and taken time to give me advice .

OP posts:
Energyvampirelove · 05/11/2022 21:54

@Ofcourseshecan
yes I clearly do have an energy vampire here !
Dps daughter always says to me it’s mine and my dads house when talking about the air bnb whilst sitting on my bed screaming at me to get out of my own room . Thank you x

OP posts:
TR888 · 06/11/2022 08:14

Don't put up with that, OP. You don't have to 🙂.

Takenoprisoner · 19/11/2022 19:51

How are you getting on @Energyvampirelove ?
Hope you managed to exorcise the energy vampire lodged in your home?

mimi1962 · 19/11/2022 19:56

You are doing all of the childcare and financially subsidising him. No the leech has to change.

Jenny3412 · 19/11/2022 19:56

500 x 12=6000
3000x12= 36000 Airbnb income
salary = 45000

you guys need to have a conversation

Twinningplus1 · 19/11/2022 20:10

So what happened when you guys put the kids to bed?

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