Does your partner constantly want sex?

[baristababe]

I split up with my partner for a while and we've just decided to give it another go.
He just wants sex all the time though.. even if we have it on a night he'll want it again the next morning and when I say no he'll beg and plead until I actually have to be quite firm after which he gets upset. We can't just sit on the sofa and have him cuddle of massage me without him trying to fondle my boobs or stroke my nether regions. He pays more attention and affection to me than he does our daughter.
Is this a normal man? Or is it me with a low sex drive?

What was he like before you split?

It could be you just low sex drive.

Some men are very horny and want sex all the time. My guy like this at times it drive me nuts too.

He does need to pay attention to your daughter.

He would sulk if I didn't want sex. He was messaging other women.

Nope, his inability to accept no for an answer is definitely not normal. A higher sex drive is, but pleading and begging is coercion.

He's a pathetic sex pest who needs to be dumped until he learns the concept of consent.

God no, we're both exhausted most of the time.

Once a week at the weekend is the most either of us can be arsed with. During a working week one of us is usually snoozing on the sofa by 9pm. Weekdays are a total no go, weekdays are just survival mode 😂

when I say no he'll beg and plead until I actually have to be quite firm after which he gets upset.

We can't just sit on the sofa and have him cuddle of massage me without him trying to fondle my boobs or stroke my nether regions.

Fucksake. Split up again already.
Unless you want to spend the rest of your life batting away a cheating sex pest who doesn't accept the word no.

He sounds like a neglectful parent too.
What's the point of him?

Sex pests are extremely unattractive. Get rid of this daft teenager man.

Why don't you believe you deserve better than that? A sulky child and a cheat. Lovely.

Urgh begging and pleading for sex.

So unattractive. Im surprised we can't all hear your Fanny clamp shut OP.

@baristababe

Are you having second thoughts about getting back with him.

Correct me if I am wrong are you forcing yourself to have sex with him to stop him communicating with other women?

If your on your time of the month how does he cope?

I had an ex and if I was going to see him and I would say I am on he would say well maybe don't come down you rest etc. But for me it wasn't all sex I was going because I missed him wanted to spend time with him and it seemed all he wanted was sex not to see me.

Besides sex what do you both enjoy together?

He's a sex pest. There was a reason you split up the first time. Do you really want to be pestered for sex everyday and then have to say yes because other he sulks or messages other women. I bet he uses porn a lot as well. Get rid of him op.

Begging for sex is grim. My husband has a higher sex drive than me, we became parents again this year, I was knackered so I asked if for a few weeks we could just completelt forgo sex, as he isn’t an arse he was fine with that. Sometimes I turn him down, he would never sulk, beg or plead despite the fact that he is probably a bit disappointed.

And you’re back with him because….?!!!

He sounds dreadful!!

Struggling to see why you got back together

Presumably him being a sex pest was a large part of the reason you split up before? If so then he clearly hasn't changed.

Dump him again. This behaviour would make me feel repulsed and I would be likely to tell him to fuck off.

You do know that his sulking if you don't sleep with him is 'sexual coercion' right?

Surely you don't want your child growing up in an environment like this? Thinking this shit is normal.

Get shot of the creep.

He would sulk if I didn't want sex. He was messaging other women.

And you've got back together with this horrible sulky sex pest why?!

Wanting sex frequently is normal for some. It's also normal for most to just accept a no and move on with your day.

Sulking, begging, pleading, getting upset, fondling at you whenever you're physically close so you can't relax, having you feeling like there is something wrong with you - no, that's not something you should accept.

He's a sex pest, verging on sexually coercive and an attempted cheater.

There's a healthy interest/desire for sex and then there's obsession; he seems to be in the latter category.

And this.

He sounds like a randy desperate terrier humping everyone's leg (or trying to).

He pays more attention and affection to me than he does our daughter.

How horrible for your daughter.

He sounds awful. I would break up with him.

While there is no "normal" when it vomeyto frequency... this is unusual and sounds like he has a sex addiction? Does he watch a lot of porn?

Does my partner want sex all the time? Yes.

Does he ask or try it on all the time or ever sulk if I say no? Never.

We have a pretty shit sex life at the moment life is pretty mental. We still give each other affection. And know we still fancy each other. But we're adults who are trying to juggle work lives, being heavily pregnant, court cases, and combination of children that are awake from 5am to 10pm. He's lucky if he gets it once a fortnight at the moment.

I hate men like this. They're not all this way.