Does your partner constantly want sex?

[baristababe]

I split up with my partner for a while and we've just decided to give it another go.
He just wants sex all the time though.. even if we have it on a night he'll want it again the next morning and when I say no he'll beg and plead until I actually have to be quite firm after which he gets upset. We can't just sit on the sofa and have him cuddle of massage me without him trying to fondle my boobs or stroke my nether regions. He pays more attention and affection to me than he does our daughter.
Is this a normal man? Or is it me with a low sex drive?

And equally, if your partner wasn't up for it then you'd respect their bodily autonomy, no?

Unless you think 'making yourself available' translates to acting like a human wank sock.

We women are gifted with the capability of having sex, whether we are excited or not. On the otherhand, a man cannot have sex if he is not excited. Simply said, we are sexually, the stronger sex. Surely, a relationship is a lot more than sex, and respect for one another is very important. But just imagine how happy you can make your other half in providing him with the physical pleasure he seeks from you, without the necessity of making any physical or mental effort. On the other hand, a man requires both mental and physical effort to have sex. If you manage to do this, you become supreme.

Sorry for the bloke gatecrash - but reading this with intertest. If the Guy in question wrote this, then dude you need to take a very cold bath, if you didn't write this then the dude is an A-Hole.

Yes, blokes want sex all the time, I do, but it's all about restraint and more so respect. Sometimes there is no bigger turn on than your O/H cuddlng up and/or sprawling over you - gives me an erection (without needing to go into full sex) but It also - and more importantly, gives me a sense of love and affection from her WHICH, there is no bigger turn on.

I also agree it is simply someone being a total sex pest.

Oh good lord.

A) It's not a gift to be able to have sex you're not in the mood for

B) It's also an inaccurate statement - yes, men need to become erect but women need to feel relaxed and lubricated (most women, at least for good sex).

And C) Sex isn't a service one person provides to another in a healthy relationship (kinks aside, of course...)

He is not right for you. You are sexually incompatible.

Another woman with a higher drive would be happy with this much sex. You aren't and that's fine. But it's not fine to pursue a relationship or god forbid, get married and one partner feels constantly rejected over time and the other constantly disrespected and used. I have seen people stuck like this and it is misery.

You ought to go your separate ways.

Spot on. And Spot on. Women are the best in the world.

But just imagine how happy you can make your other half in providing him with the physical pleasure he seeks from you, without the necessity of making any physical or mental effort.

I suppose everyone's different but if I'm having sex when I'm not in the mood for it, having it because a bloke wants it, that isn't a painless experience. I don't feel physical pain from it but it's psychologically annoying and unpleasant. It'd probably be more damaging for the relationship because I could only put up with that so often- and it might make me actually want sex less often than I otherwise would.

Is he 15?

STFU 🙄

Fucking hell

I think it’s just some sad little MRA who wishes he still lived in a time when men could legally rape their wives.

Why did you agree to take him back? What is he doing to show you he's changed? Has he apologised for messaging the other women?

Are you sure you want to be with him? Begging and pleading for sex is deeply unattractive. I would hate this if we couldn't simply sit and watch TV without being harassed and felt up, yuk!

Well it's not looking good is it? He sulked before when he didn't get sex and you split because he started messaging other women, and now he still sulks when he doesn't get sex and the difference this time is that you already know what happens next because he did it before. He's going to start chasing other women again. You know this isn't going to work don't you?

My ex was a sex pest, he’s an ex for that reason. Your partner is a sex pest @baristababe .