Red flags all over ?

[summersunshine46]

I’ve written a lot of posts about this situation, most recently a couple of days ago. I wrote how I felt like I was overthinking and analysing things, but tonight I can no longer look past things and I’ve had a realisation that this guy has red flags circulating over him but I want a second opinion on this also.

So guy in question accidentally told me he loved me a couple of weeks into dating. Since then he’s told me every time I see him how much he likes me etc. last night I went round and his dog started growling and barking at me he come downstairs and was like let the dog sit with us so I did even though I felt weird about it. He then bent down and said ‘I can’t believe you think that she is a c**t’ to the dog I was gobsmacked, joke or not felt really weird behaviour.

Then we were watching film and it was a comedy but had a funeral part in it and he was like whose reading your eulogy, I was like erm I don’t plan on dying this young any time soon but he kept asking me thought it was strange. Then he grabbed hold of my hand and continue to tell me how much he likes me and that he wants me to be his fitness buddy. This was during the point in the film where they were talking about being exclusive and it had been something that was on my mind but glad I didn’t bring it up.

he told me the bottle of Prosecco couldn’t be opened becuase he’s saving it for his date tonight (whether that was a joke or not I’m not sure). Then this morning he woke up and said do you want a coffee in bed and I said you don’t have to get up this early and he said no it’s ok I really like you so I want to, then we went bit off and cold and then I left he gave me a little peck whereas normally it’s full on kiss. Then tonight he’s gone off out again and for the first time in 2 months he’s gone compeltley silent and left mg message unread.

everytime I see him it’s really good during the night go for food and drinks he acts like I’m the only person in the room and is so attentive. The next day I go away and my head is completely all over the place. Surely this is not normal 2 months into dating?

It sounds very intense.

Writing a few posts about about a relationship suggests the relationship isn’t good. Either he is a walking red flag or you’re not ready for a relationship at the moment. Something ain’t right here.

This guy sounds like he’s been love bombing you and is now starting to give you the silent treatment as some sort of manipulation so that you wonder and your mind boggles (it’s working great because here you are opening a thread).

this man is immature and manipulative.

@Sandra1984 i do feel like it’s love bombing, the fact I come away and feel so all over the place makes me believe it is

Are you exclusive yet or not?

@altmember not exclusive no

last night I went round and his dog started growling and barking at me he come downstairs and was like let the dog sit with us so I did even though I felt weird about it. He then bent down and said ‘I can’t believe you think that she is a ct’ to the dog

Dump this man. Now.

I haven’t read any other of your previous posts about this man, but on the basis of his comment to his dog about you, it would make me end things straight away. It’s NOT a joke and if he even tried to pas it off as one, it’s just downright unacceptable. Tell you he loves you one minute then calls you a c@&t the next, is abusive behaviour.

Id run a mile on this basis alone, if I were you, never mind anything else.

Looking at your other threads, you should not be dating anyone let alone this weirdo

He is a tit, and possibly dangerous to you. Walk away.

Yep, there’s something quite sinister about this guy. The OP developing anxiety is her system trying to tell her something. I would run to the hills from this one.

Him using his dog to call you that is more than enough to block him and forget about him.
Dump the knob fast @summersunshine46

Sinister is right.
He sounds incredibly weird (at best) and whether intentional or not (unlikely), he seems to be constantly chopping and changing his moods and coming out with random crap and sounds potentially volatile.
If he is like this now, when he barely knows you I dread to think what he'd be like in 6 months or 6 years. I'm only reading your posts and it's making me feel like he likes mess with your head/feelings.
Absolute walking red flag.
Cut him off and block him. (And if he knows where you live, get a ring/camera doorbell).

You don’t like the way he treats you. Why are you still with him? For the crumbs of nice he bestows on you when you are together?

He keeps knocking you down emotionally with his unkind words (when you get the WTF feeling) then making you grateful with his kind words.

He’s not a nice person and you can’t change him. Both of these sides to him are who he is, not just the nice person.

You feel so all over the place because your heart knows he’s being deliberately unkind to you and you are shocked that a human being could treat another human being like that intentionally.

Get rid of him and find somebody who doesn’t play head games like this for their own amusement.

Yes, someone above mentioned “head games”. The OP should expect a lot of that coming from this guy. Fact is he’s already started as she has like two threads on this guy. Plus, a man who says “I love you” after Two weeks of meeting has red flags all over.

This is so creepy - i wouldn't want to be in the same room with this man, let alone share his bed.

Run!

He got married in June and then I met him in September - his marriage lasted 4 weeks (after she supposedly had an affair). Don’t know why and how I overlooked these details

Well you're several months into something that sounds relatively full on. By that stage I'd like to think someone I was dating would know whether they're ready for exclusivity and a relationship with me. So just carrying on this long without it going either way would put me on edge a bit, so maybe that's behind his weirdness?

Or maybe he's just an oddball? If you have doubts at this stage it's probably not worth continuing.

You should call the wife and get her side of the story (just kidding). My point is that story he’s telling you sounds super weird, he also sounds angry and bitter towards women. Be careful with that.

RUN FOR THE HILLS AND DON'T LOOK BACK.

Marriage lasted 4 weeks?

Woah.......

Dodge the bullet and move on.

Sweet Jesus, run girl

The fact that you've made SIX threads in one month about this man is Chinese Communist Party amounts of red flags OP. Either he's dodgy or you need to work on yourself to date safely (or both). Run.

Not seen the other threads but there's something chilling about this man. Such odd things to say, calling you a cunt, going on about your funeral, telling you he had another date. Someone whose idea of fun is to say unpleasant things 'jokingly' all the the time is not a nice person. They simply think they've found a way to get away with saying awful things. If it was a good relationship you wouldn't be feeling so conflicted.

You're not happy. I would leave than stick this hot/cold out. Life's too short.

@summersunshine46

Can you tell us why, specifically, you would consider staying with him? There's something that stops you walking away; what is it?