If you have ever had an emotional affair...

[ggggllllyyyy]

Did you tell your partner about it after it had ended? In either scenario (whether you decided to stay together or break up, for the emotional affair person or not)

No, i didn't. But i did go on to have a physical affair that he discovered.

I have had two. One was fairly brief, the other lasted about a year. They were all in my head, nobody knew including the men about whom I was fantasising.

These things pass.

My stbexh has had one. I lost all trust and respect for him and we're soon divorcing.

What good does coming clean do? All it does is make you feel better, it will crush your partner and trust us hard to rebuild. As long as it really didn't lead to anything physical, then cover your tracks and put all your guilty energy into your actual relationship.