He came home super late few weeks ago, he is supposed to be at school and previously would always come home at a certain time. Which made me feel suspicious that he was doing something.
We have gotten too comfortable in our relationship. He doesn’t even have a lock on his phone. He totally forgot to delete the messages.
First, I thought it was just regular escorts.
I ended up getting our call log.
So many escort numbers.
The nights he came home late, he was texting a transgender escort.
After he was confronted he disappeared for two days.
He finally contacted me and said the reason is because he was stressed about money, I made him feel like he wasn’t doing enough. Which made him start to drink. Then he entertained the idea. (His words)
I am not perfect. I do always tell him how much I want to move(we live in a bad neighborhood)
I just didn’t think he would go behind my back and do this.
On our call logs I even got in contact with someone and HE and I had a conversation.
I texted the number saying “Hey I saw ur ad”
He said to call, but when he heard my voice he sounded nervous,his voice was shaking and he was very denfensive.
I texted him and we went back and forth and he told me “if you saw my ad then give me an offer followed by explicit text here
I told him his number is linked to an escort site on google and after our conversation I googled the number again and the ad was completely gone.
My partner has not explained any of these numbers I have found.
He only gave me half a reason.
I am devastated because he is a recovering addict. He is 3 years sober and I thought our relationship was fine. We were going to the gym together, getting in shape, working towards getting our degrees.
I feel like I got to comfortable. I just wish he would have sat down and explained to me, talked to me. Instead of going behind my back and doing this.
I just needed to vent.
Its been very hard these past couple of days.
I don’t know how to move on from this.