Lisa, it takes a special kind of loser to suddenly leave his wife and two small children in the lurch. He absolutely engineered that argument so he could storm out and head to OW’s.
What a gutless coward.
He has orchestrated other arguments lately that created distance, likely to justify his infidelity. I read your thread about his sabotaging your roast dinner after you asked about his pouring bleach in the wash. You’ve mentioned that his M.O. is blame-shifting and giving you the silent treatment when he’s in the wrong, and expecting you to apologize.
You’re a SAHM who is taking courses and plans to return to work when your eldest starts school. In his late 30’s, he has education and training, yet he quit two higher paying jobs and works for minimum wage, commuting an hour and refusing to take a better job closer, despite fuel costs. Does OW work with him?
He’s bad with money and you’re usually short of food before pay day. If you try to establish a budget, he accuses you of controlling ‘his money.’ I wonder how much he’s spending on OW.
On another poster’s thread re her partner staying gone constantly with work, hobbies, and going out binge drinking, you commented that your H is just like that.
Lisa, he has treated you and your sweet children with utter contempt and callous disregard. He’s a selfish, controlling, abusive cheat, and I hope you won’t allow him back when he tries to slither back in. 