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Most annoying thing your DP does

121 replies

Qwertyasdfgz · 20/10/2022 17:11

What’s your pet peeve against your DP?

Mine is that whenever he hoovers he will just leave cobwebs or that he’ll ‘do’ the kitchen and not wipe any of the surfaces and leaves everything that doesn’t belong in the kitchen in the kitchen😂

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WakeUpandMakeUp · 21/10/2022 18:22

Now ex-DP but we're still living together.

I spent all morning clearing out the shite in our spare rooms. Everything tidied, cleaned and hoovered. Looking lovely. I say to him "this is a bag of your stuff, can you put it away please?".

He takes it out of my hand, gives the bag a quizzical look, then dumps it on the floor of the newly cleaned room... because then it's "out the way".

Give. Me. Strength.

deliverooyoutoo · 21/10/2022 18:34

Meticulously washed and sorts the recycling.

Me-tic-u-lously. The recycling is gleaming. All the labels are soaked off. And then it's piled up on the kitchen side and he never takes it to the bin.

SirChenjins · 21/10/2022 18:45

Buys stuff. The house is groaning under the weight of stuff and one of these days it’s going to sink 10 feet into the foundations with the weight of stuff. He has spread his stuff into the spare room, the loft, the garage, two sheds and now a lean to we’ve just had built so the stuff could be moved out of one of the sheds and into it. Every time I clear a space he fills it and he gets quite twitchy when I thrown anything out - tip trips are done when he’s not here. After 30 years together that’s the thing that really, really ticks me off.

Silverangels · 21/10/2022 19:11

Oh and he hangs onto clothes that are so worn out,they are not fit even for the bin

im not joking when I say his slippers are falling to bits and are held together by about 3 stitches

he own clothes that are older than my eldest dd-and she’s 26

he won’t buy anymore as ‘there’s life left in them still’

he didn’t even buy them-they are his dads old ones-he got them when we lost fil last year

just loosen the purse strings and buy some more!

Marineboy67 · 21/10/2022 22:29

Smoking

ASCB31 · 21/10/2022 22:40

Whenever we're about to leave for somewhere he'll go to the loo (fine) but then takes ages so when I go to search for him, I'll usually find he's suddenly decided the toilet/sink/shower needs cleaning and is doing it there and then!!! Drives me potty!

Narwhaleahoy · 21/10/2022 22:46

ellieboolou · 20/10/2022 21:50

God this is exactly like my husband, he'll say his going for a bath, 10 minutes later he'll still be standing in the middle of the room watching something on his phone or TV, or he will ask if I want a cup of tea, boil the kettle then sit down for 5 minutes or stare out the window, then has to re boil kettle. Drives me nuts

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This!!
And so many others on this thread…

BasicDad · 21/10/2022 23:28

Puts plates, cups, food containers, half filled takeaway cups in the utility for the dishwasher or recycling. Only so I have to go back into the kitchen to scrape/empty and then back into the utility to load the dishwasher, or out to the recycling..fuuuuuuuming 😤😄

Pearlygates · 18/01/2023 15:17

Breathe

Fladdermus · 18/01/2023 15:20

His inability to close drawers and cupboards, always leaving them just a centimetre or two open. Drives me nuts. It also extends to not tucking a chair in when he leaves it. He tucks it in, but not completely. Arrrrgh!

WigglyGlowWorm · 18/01/2023 15:22

We regularly have the ‘Floordrobe’ conversation. In fact, I sent him a picture, just this morning, of his jeans on the floor whilst my side of the bed was lovely and tidy. It’s infuriating 😡

shadowwalk · 18/01/2023 15:26

Asks if he "should" bring the bin back in. I don't know why he is all of a sudden asking me stupidly obvious questions. I am sure his intuition will come back at some point. In the meantime, I'm pretending I didn't hear the question in the first instance because he'll normally correct himself. Otherwise, I've asked him why is asking me that all of a sudden.

Sunshineandflipflops · 18/01/2023 15:35

I am the only adult in my house so I don't have to be annoyed by the presence of another one and it's bliss!

When dp is round though, he does shut doors a lot. Don't get me wrong, I like doors being closed to keep warmth in but I have a cat and as soon as you shut a door, she scratches at it to be let in.

madeyemoody · 18/01/2023 15:47

My partner is the baby by 10 years in her family, and was cleaned up after like a little princess her whole life. So now I live with someone with the cleaning ability of a maybe 10 year old. She will not spontaneously clean. It is like asking a child to do something. She lives with the expectation that someone will always just clean around her. And that someone is me.

Back2Back2t · 18/01/2023 15:50

madeyemoody · 18/01/2023 15:47

My partner is the baby by 10 years in her family, and was cleaned up after like a little princess her whole life. So now I live with someone with the cleaning ability of a maybe 10 year old. She will not spontaneously clean. It is like asking a child to do something. She lives with the expectation that someone will always just clean around her. And that someone is me.

Ouch! Must be hard for you.

Cotswoldmama · 18/01/2023 15:51

So many things! Leaves dirty clothes on the bathroom floor, hangs hoodies on the top of doors or bed posts or chairs basically everywhere, if it was just one I could cope but it's about 3 or 4 scattered around the house. He'll put dirty washing on the floor next to the washing machine instead of straight in to it. He never makes the bed and only seems to be able to open one curtain!

Squamata · 18/01/2023 16:00

Jobs that are left 80% done. Like buying groceries - leave them just below the cupboard where they belong. Plates left on top of dishwasher. Laundry sorted into piles but left on the bed instead of in drawers. Paperwork put next to but not in folders. It means I either have to raise it the whole time or spend my life being confronted with tiny chores everywhere I look.

I probably have more bad habits than him though tbh!

Iamblossom · 18/01/2023 16:27

Makes random Amazon purchases for things he doesn't need and then refuses to send them back as it's "too much hassle".

Shouts at people for leaving appliances on but never turns tvs or lights off himself.

Picks his fingernails off and leaves them on the table by his living room chair.

rightsaidfreddie · 18/01/2023 17:40

disneydatknee · 20/10/2022 21:13

His constant "hovering" drives me nuts. He will just stand in the middle of the room to chat or watch TV. Either sit down or go away!

Yes mine hovers too, generally on his phone. Sometimes it feels like he's standing over me and invading my space when he does it (he's not though).

He's recently started making this weird noise when he finishes a sentence, like sucking some air back in through his teeth. It drives me nuts!

Kikimusnik · 18/01/2023 17:52

Takes ages when going to the toilet... Decides to do this just before I serve dinner, and then moans the food is cold?!?

Leaves cupboards/drawers open slightly! Never ever shuts them.

Leaves a chair untucked,

Socks on sofa,

Trail of clothes/coat and other stuff everywhere.

Never wipes kitchen surfaces down!

still doesn't know what week it is for bins, despite living here for years...

leaves empty cans upstairs and doesn't ever bring them down to go in the recycling bin!

Hairs all over the sink when shaving!! Argh 😡

has random carrier bags full of crap... I counted 6 of them the other day in random places.. they never get sorted out either.. I will chuck them away after a certain amount of time!!

Cucumberbund · 18/01/2023 18:12

Most of the above along with asking me random questions ALL OF THE TIME. I try to tell him some thing funny say about my friends cat for instance and before I've even got a sentence out he'll butt in.. Oh your friend Susan, is she still driving that ten year old car? How often does she bring it to the garage? How many miles away is her work..on and on and on. I just don't bother anymore. It really enrages me if I'm in the middle of something like making dinner in a rush and I'm hangry. The weird thing is I can't imagine he cares one bit about the answers or would ever remember the information. I would love to know why he does it or what is actually going on inside his head.

Slipperyslope72 · 18/01/2023 18:13

When he cleans he likes to leave out proof; hoover in the middle of the room, cleaning products out in the bathroom!

OldandTired66 · 18/01/2023 18:13

Looms over me to turn up the cooker hood, no matter what setting I have it on. Don't know why but it drives me mad.

Will turn light off when leaving a room. Even if I'm still in it.

Will say things like "Do we have an ice scraper?" When what he means is go out in the freezing cold and get the scraper from your car so it's here when I need it for my car tomorrow morning.

Goodread1 · 18/01/2023 18:15

My ex partner who is scruffy Narastistic Pschiopath ect

What annoys me is he is still breathing .!
(Alive and kicking in rude health unfortunately

Buzzer3555 · 18/01/2023 18:18

He sings when he yawns. And he sings along to TV theme tunes