I hope I'm posting in the right place. I need some insight into what's going on with a mum friend. Basically our sons (5) are best friends. We've always gotten on really well, had loads to chat about and a bit of banter and generally an easy relationship. She's a bit of a social butterfly and gossipy but I just accepted that as who she is. We've shared intimate feelings on both sides regarding our marriages and personal experiences.
It's been more me that instigates our meet-ups with the kids, I have them over to mine more but then she would do favours like run my son to school (she offered) when I was working.
All was well until I started ivf. The first try a couple of years ago ended with a chemical pregnancy. She made me a necklace to say sorry for your loss. I didn't actually talk to her about it much at all, just told her it hasn't worked. A year later we tried again. She was asking all the time what stage I was at, how it was going, being really supportive. When test day came she asked if I'd tested, I said yes it was positive. She then went really weird and implied I shouldn't have told her. She didn't seem that happy for me.
A few weeks later I started heavy bleeding, my husband was abroad with work. I had no one to call. I text and asked if she could take my son to school. I was bent double in pain. She raced over, took him to school and said she'd be back. An hour later she came back with another mum friend, who stayed with me, and she promptly left without saying goodbye.
By some miracle my baby was still ok. The next day she knew I was having a scan to see if baby was there and she squeezed my arm and said good luck when I saw her at school. I text to say it was ok. She was really happy, said she'd been praying for me etc.
since that day, about 5 months ago, she's not asked me once how I am, how the pregnancy is going, nothing. She's literally ran the opposite direction at drop off, done the same to my husband. I've tried to ask to meet you but there's always an excuse to say no.
I text to see if everything was ok and she just said she was struggling and tired etc, but seems to have plenty of energy with other mums.
I'm 5 months pregnant, very very lonely and sad. I've lost someone I thought was a friend. I'm turning it over and over, what did I do wrong? I'm isolated in terms of no family support, just my hubby. I have maybe one friend I can talk to. I have to see her every day, twice a day. I'm trying to be normal but I'm so hurt and confused.
She has two kids already, doesn't want more.
Any insights? Other than to get over it?