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Original poster

Ungrateful hubby

89 replies

jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 13:23

Please tell me if I'm being unreasonable here . Yesterday I spent a couple of hours cooking and made 3 cottage pies and cooked a large beef joint to make Sunday lunches . I've plated 7 dinners up with all the veg just need to add mash and gravy. They will all go into the freezer for weekend and next week . Today hubby has been moaning saying he prefers the dinners fresh and doesn't know why I do this . I'm ready to smash the dinners over his head as I think this is so bloody ungrateful . He of course disagrees . AIBU to feel angry

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FTM2022SS · 07/10/2022 13:29

I totally agree with your husband as long as he is doing ALLL the fresh cooking! Haha! Jokes - I love a freezer stash! It's like someone has cooked tea for me as a treat!

Quartz2208 · 07/10/2022 13:31

YOu have already cooked and now frozen Sunday lunch apart from mash and gravy on plates?

But yes I would say to him if he prefers it fresh he should cook

Aggypanthus · 07/10/2022 13:32

You deserve a medal.

Arrivederla · 07/10/2022 13:34

Does he cook at all or is it all left to you?

madasawethen · 07/10/2022 13:35

Well he can cook it then.
He's BVU

VeridicalVagabond · 07/10/2022 13:36

If he prefers it fresh he can cook it himself.

MardyBra · 07/10/2022 13:38

Cottage pies - great.
Plated up roast dinner - not so great.
Saying hubby - YABU

MardyBra · 07/10/2022 13:39

But he should do it himself if he’s that bothered

frozendaisy · 07/10/2022 13:39

To be honest I and the Mr prefer fresh but, and there clearly is a but, if I cooked batch and froze, if H moaned he would be welcome to cook how he liked.

If you don't want to spend 2 hours daily cooking that is for you not H to decide. If you said, ok I will cook Friday and Saturday evenings you take on Sunday roast, that would be a compromise.

Purplecatshopaholic · 07/10/2022 13:39

I agree with him, but would accept I need to do it myself then! If you have done it like that, yes he should be grateful, or step up himself

Azandme · 07/10/2022 13:40

I agree with him that fresh is much nicer for some things, reheated Sunday dinners are nowhere near as good. Cottage pies, however, reheat fine.

That said, if he doesn't like how you do it he should cook them. I'd rather do that than eat a reheated Sunday dinner.

Hoppinggreen · 07/10/2022 13:44

Sounds awful and not something I would want to eat.
BUT if he doesn’t like it then he can get more involved in the cooking

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 07/10/2022 13:45

Sorry, but that sounds rank. Don't bother with roast dinners if you are plating and freezing them to microwave on Sunday 🤮
He should take over cooking if he's not happy with your approach but honestly frozen microwaved food is nasty and what a waste of what is probably delicious cottage pie and roast dinner!! You're wasting your effort making lovely food then freezing it. Grim.

Violettaa · 07/10/2022 13:47

Im a batch cooking queen, but really don’t fancy the sound of those roast dinners.

I agree that if he wants a change he can do it himself, though!

Original poster
jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:01

I'm really shocked how many people are disliking freezing a Sunday lunch . How is it any different to freezing a cottage pie meat veg potato 🤷🏽‍♀️.

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Pumpkinpatchlookinggood · 07/10/2022 14:04

Well that's you sorted op. Do not sort any more meals for him.

RaininSummer · 07/10/2022 14:04

It does seem odd to freeze the veg and everything. It doesn't take long to cook veg fresh and tastes way nicer. However if he wasn't planning on cooking it on Sunday then it's up to you how you choose to feed them all.

MrsCarson · 07/10/2022 14:10

We slice and freeze the roast meat after Sunday dinner and just make fresh veg and potatoes to make a nice roast dinner when we want one.
Nothing wrong with the freezing OP.
Tell him he has to cook fresh every night and see if he likes that instead.

Ray92 · 07/10/2022 14:15

I think he will prefer frozen food to starvation...
Which is what he should now be facing.
Cooking strike!

Original poster
jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:16

It's something I've done for ages but only today has he objected . I hate ungrateful people god I would be made up if he cooked a Sunday lunch for me frozen or otherwise . It makes me feel so undervalued . Most men I knows wives don't cook for their hubby's at all . Perhaps that's where I'm going wrong 🤷🏽‍♀️

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bellsbuss · 07/10/2022 14:20

Cottage pie fine but frozen plated roast sounds rank

Anniefrenchfry · 07/10/2022 14:21

Well to be fair I’d not like that either, bluergh, cottage pie fine but freezing Sunday lunch, playing it up,,,just no but agree he can cook it if he wants it fresh.

but it would be a hard no from me too.

erikbloodaxe · 07/10/2022 14:22

Cottage pie freezes well. It's moist. (Apologies to the moistphobics)

Dry Roast Meat and veg frozen. No thanks.

He's probably been biting his tongue all this time and can't stand another sad pseudo roast.

Anniefrenchfry · 07/10/2022 14:23

MrsCarson · 07/10/2022 14:10

We slice and freeze the roast meat after Sunday dinner and just make fresh veg and potatoes to make a nice roast dinner when we want one.
Nothing wrong with the freezing OP.
Tell him he has to cook fresh every night and see if he likes that instead.

She is even cooking and freezing the veg , plates it up and then microwaves it up,for lunch. It’s rank.

Backtoreality22 · 07/10/2022 14:26

I’m not keen on frozen meals either. It’s never the same as fresh.