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Ungrateful hubby

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jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 13:23

Please tell me if I'm being unreasonable here . Yesterday I spent a couple of hours cooking and made 3 cottage pies and cooked a large beef joint to make Sunday lunches . I've plated 7 dinners up with all the veg just need to add mash and gravy. They will all go into the freezer for weekend and next week . Today hubby has been moaning saying he prefers the dinners fresh and doesn't know why I do this . I'm ready to smash the dinners over his head as I think this is so bloody ungrateful . He of course disagrees . AIBU to feel angry

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madmeadows · 07/10/2022 14:27

Frozen plated up roast dinner aside, I honestly don't get how people can refer to their husband as hubby - so for that YABU

Hillrunning · 07/10/2022 14:27

Do you microwave these meals tonreheat them? I wouldn't enjoy that at all. I'd feel comfortable telling my husband that I don't enjoy that. He wouldn't consider me ungrateful.

Presumably it was your choice to spend hours cooking up stuff to freeze.

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jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:29

madmeadows · 07/10/2022 14:27

Frozen plated up roast dinner aside, I honestly don't get how people can refer to their husband as hubby - so for that YABU

Ofgs get a grip

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allfurcoatnoknickers · 07/10/2022 14:30

I absolutely hate frozen meals, meal prep and batch cooking. Frozen and reheated roast dinner sounds absolutely rank to me. However, your husband should have brought it up before you did all the cooking, as opposed to after. So YANBU.

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jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:30

Well thanks for the comments people it seems I'm in the minority on this one then . I'll make sure I do all fresh food from now on for my hubby 😘 oops sorry husband 😂

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CovertImage · 07/10/2022 14:32

I wouldn't particularly like a reheated frozen Sunday lunch but what a bunch of tools in the PPs calling it "rank"

momtoboys · 07/10/2022 14:33

MardyBra · 07/10/2022 13:39

But he should do it himself if he’s that bothered

I agree.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 07/10/2022 14:33

What a waste of a beef joint! nearly as bad as the people on here making sandwiches for kids pack up at the weekend and freezing them for the week ahead

AsterixInEngland · 07/10/2022 14:34

Well he is allowed to say he prefers that meal cooked fresh.
He is also totally ungrateful. He doesn’t recognise the efforts you’ve made and clearly expects YOU to cook Sunday lunch at his preference.

The answer is what many other people have said. He is cooking.
I know you’ve already prepared stuff but I’d keep that for another day and tell him that HE is in charge of Sunday lunch and you expect a freshly cooked Sunday lunch as it’s very clearly better.
Repeat every Sunday and leave him to it. Don’t look back and don’t start cooking again.

EthicalNonMahogany · 07/10/2022 14:35

Can you tell us why you did it all the other night rather than doing Sunday lunch fresh on Sunday morning? If e.g. you are a SAHM and typically do cooking while he does other stuff, he maybe can't see why the jobs have to be done in a way that makes the food nastier.

Trying to think of an analogy. Hoovering in the evening while someone else is trying to relax?

If you think overall it's unfair and he doesn't pull his weight and you are cooking at night because you're totally overloaded- fine, that's a different conversation!

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 07/10/2022 14:35

jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:30

Well thanks for the comments people it seems I'm in the minority on this one then . I'll make sure I do all fresh food from now on for my hubby 😘 oops sorry husband 😂

I agree with him, I wouldn't want a frozen/defrosted/reheated Sunday dinner either but I wouldn't expect anyone else to cook it. Tell him he either eats yours or cooks it himself

Fraaahnces · 07/10/2022 14:36

I’d poison the entitled twat

AsterixInEngland · 07/10/2022 14:36

jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:30

Well thanks for the comments people it seems I'm in the minority on this one then . I'll make sure I do all fresh food from now on for my hubby 😘 oops sorry husband 😂

Sorry you’re crazy.

So a bunch of people on the internet tell you they wouldnt do it. Your DH tells you off and tells you he expects a freshly cooked Sunday lunch and …. You just say yes and apologise.

Nothing about the reason why you started to do that (easier, less time consuming in the day, whatever your reasons are). Nope. You do as yur DH has told you.

well I imagine that’s up to you.

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 07/10/2022 14:37

ZeroFuchsGiven · 07/10/2022 14:33

What a waste of a beef joint! nearly as bad as the people on here making sandwiches for kids pack up at the weekend and freezing them for the week ahead

Ew, wouldn't they go all soggy? Surely it's not hard to make a quick packed lunch of an evening...or even better, gets the kids to do their own

tealandteal · 07/10/2022 14:39

The cottage pie is fine, assuming you aren’t having cottage pie every day. If I didn’t have time to make a roast from fresh I would make something else, I do t think a roast is one of those meals that can be frozen.

AsterixInEngland · 07/10/2022 14:39

Trying to think of an analogy. Hoovering in the evening while someone else is trying to relax?

can’t see the issue if it’s the only time you can do that and the jerkin relaxing isn’t going to push the hoover around.
The ourson relaxing could do it at a time convenient to them instead so they can relax when they want and they haven’t left everything to their partner.

Women’s role isn’t to accommodate men all day long.

Dery · 07/10/2022 14:43

Some meals lend themselves to freezing, some don’t. As PPs have said, a frozen and reheated roast lunch doesn’t sound very appetising. But you must have had reasons for doing it that way and I agree that if he wants a roast lunch cooked from fresh, he can do it himself.

Plantstrees · 07/10/2022 14:44

Re-heated frozen Sunday lunch sounds awful and I wouldn't want to eat it so I think you are being unreasonable.

Paq · 07/10/2022 14:46

"I've martyred myself doing something my husband dislikes and now I'm annoyed he's not grateful."

Batch cooking things like soup, chilli or bolognese makes total sense, freezing a plated roast dinner is weird.

ParentConfessionTime · 07/10/2022 14:51

Sorry I agree with most on here, the frozen half roast dinner sounds just horrible!

Some food works cooking in advance and they tend to be things where the veg is essentially eaten as mush like cottage pie

But cooking and freezing a beef joint in slices??? And then cooking and reheating veg in the microwave loses all the bite and flavour.

I completely agree he should do it himself but I wouldn't want to eat it

I also don't understand the logic between spending 2 hours an evening prepping it to have it all reheated versus spending 2 hours Sunday morning cooking it, having it fresh and just freezing the left overs?

Anniefrenchfry · 07/10/2022 14:54

Fraaahnces · 07/10/2022 14:36

I’d poison the entitled twat

For goodness sake, he just said he doesn’t like it and doesn’t understand why she doesn’t do it fresh. Which is fair enough, I’d say the same thing. Often in homes there is a division of labour or roles. If she doesn’t wish to cook fresh then she should just tell him but you have no idea of their lives and how they split things

amd he’s right. It’s proper grim to cook a roast. Inc veg. Plate it up freeze it and then reheat In the microwave for Sunday lunch. Most of us would say the same thing as him and not wait years to do so 😂

Aquamarine1029 · 07/10/2022 15:14

jessielou1 · 07/10/2022 14:01

I'm really shocked how many people are disliking freezing a Sunday lunch . How is it any different to freezing a cottage pie meat veg potato 🤷🏽‍♀️.

Some things freeze well, Sunday roasts and veg do not. I agree with your husband. It sounds very unappetizing. A lasagna portioned up and frozen would be much nicer.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 07/10/2022 15:31

Cigarettesaftersex1 · 07/10/2022 14:37

Ew, wouldn't they go all soggy? Surely it's not hard to make a quick packed lunch of an evening...or even better, gets the kids to do their own

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I honestly can not imagine how they would taste or the texture and have no inclination to find out

Does anyone on this thread do this? I have read it so many times on MN but never actually asked the question how they turn out. I mean do you put them in their lunch box frozen so they are defrosted by lunch time or defrost them the night before?

roarfeckingroarr · 07/10/2022 15:32

You've pre cooked veg and meat for Sunday dinners and are now freezing it?!

That's a bit weird.

Cottage pies - not weird.

Anniefrenchfry · 07/10/2022 15:38

roarfeckingroarr · 07/10/2022 15:32

You've pre cooked veg and meat for Sunday dinners and are now freezing it?!

That's a bit weird.

Cottage pies - not weird.

Actually plated up. Ready to be microwaved 😂

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