Can you guys please help me work out whether I'm totally over the top?
Rang dp during the work day. I was really upset about something that nothing to do with him but wanted his reassurance/support. Asked him if he was busy before I spoke and he said he wasn't busy and was driving between jobs. Started telling him about an upsetting phonecall I recieved and he cut me off to make faces and shout at another driver. I pretended that I had a call coming in and got off the phone. I didn't speak to him about it again. He did ring me back but I had to get back to work so couldn't talk then. He was supposed to come over for tea that evening but didn't. He text me about 10 saying sorry I couldn't give you my full attention hope you had a nice evening love you. I text back saying it was lovely, glad you didn't come and get your tea as now I don't have to cook tomorrow. Made it light hearted with emojis.
I was pretty upset about the above but I haven't got pissy, I have carried on as normal. The day after I was texting him about something he said he was going to do and an idea I had. He told me to stop spamming him (I wasn't spamming him, I did that thing where you write shorter msgs rather than a long one). He rang me and said I was being childish and attention seeking.
The Gottman institute talks about connection bids. I feel like I make lots of connection bids like the phone call and the idea texting and he doesn't respond to them and I feel hurt. But I also wonder whether this is a 'me' thing as I wasn't given a lot of attention in childhood and maybe do over react when I make these connection bids and I'm left hanging. I don't have this in friendship groups though.