drink in long distance relationships

[upsetromeo]

In a long distance relationship, but I like a beer with mates watching football when ever in my hometown due to work. Im also studying distance learning so in term time I concentrate alot on that.
My partner lives miles away with her daughter (whom i have a good relationship with). Rarely drinks and I respect that so when im with her, unless we go out then im respectful.
When the Queen died, full of greif and knowing i had 2 week off work I had beers with my mates in my home town, still managing a good night out with my partner. On the way back from London for the funeral I asked her a question because I had a concern about her, and thats what you do in a relationship. Whats peoples opinions on this is the relationship worth saving, I think it is but i also cant see what is wrong with having a few beers with my mates watching football in my home town aslong as im up for work and im not risking my health

So reading between the lines on your posts – your girlfriend feels you asked an intrusive / passive aggressive question about her mental health while you were drunk/drinking, and this has brought your drinking habits into question?

This could be the fact, it wasnt ment to of come out like that I do have a genuine concern for her, love her to bits.

As for the Queen funeral Im a royalist she isnt and we respect each others views. I lost my grandparents as I said earlier and with the lead up to the funeral I first felt greif for them which I told my partner.

This could be the fact, it wasnt ment to of come out like that I do have a genuine concern for her

There’s a big chunk missing from your story about the substance

of what happened and without that info it’s really impossible to comment in any meaningful way.

Phone did something odd and posted too soon, hence the split comment!

I went to London alone, like I did in June for the 70th jubilee Id had a few drinks day after on the train back if anything I was shattered as I had train delays.

Where is this home town? It sounds pretty special to get so many mentions. Maybe she’s jealous of this home town. I certainly am.

This could be the fact, it wasnt ment to of come out like that I do have a genuine concern for her, love her to bits.

As for the Queen funeral Im a royalist she isnt and we respect each others views. I lost my grandparents as I said earlier and with the lead up to the funeral I first felt greif for them which I told my partner.

it wasnt ment to of come out like that

What wasn’t meant to come out like what?

I mean, it sounds like you know you said something that was never going to land well.

A few drinks? You need to be clearer. A couple of pints? Ok? Twenty? You are binge drinking to a dangerous level. Not enough detail to comment.
Plus her MH? Because she doesn’t like you drinking???

I think if you drink and she doesn’t I’d just end it tbh - I like to party and drink regularly and go out to gigs and music festivals - I wouldn’t be with someone who didn’t like these things or with someone who judged me

no idea why the queen dying needed to part of your post though

Where is this home town? It sounds pretty special to get so many mentions. Maybe she’s jealous of this home town. I certainly am.

Not at all where she lives is better. Im just stating that we both live in seperate towns

Heyahun · Today 13:14

I think if you drink and she doesn’t I’d just end it tbh - I like to party and drink regularly and go out to gigs and music festivals - I wouldn’t be with someone who didn’t like these things or with someone who judged me

we do go out to places infact its me who wont go a festival because of the tiolet situation with portaloos

I’m so confused what’s going on in this thread 🤣

It’s perfectly straightforward @Heyahun !

He won’t go to portaloos because of the situation with the toilets

It wasn’t meant to come out like that, he genuinely has concern for her!!

He just loves the queen and likes a few drinks. Nothing wrong with that is there?

He’s a royalist and she’s not, but they respect each other’s views, that’s the main thing.

She has a negative image of him when he drinks, but the comment about her mental health wasn’t meant to come out like that. He just went for a few drinks in his home town.

Is he being unreasonable?

I’m not sure I’m understanding your posts but in all honesty if someone had a negative view of me drinking or didn’t like me drinking I would not be with them.
I like to have a drink socially when I’m out and I would feel a bit strange if I was drinking and the other person wasn’t. I don’t think I could be with anyone who doesn’t drink. Not that I am judging people on their choices, just that I wouldn’t feel me and that person are compatible. I’m not sure why she had an overreaction to what you asked her apart from it could have been the way you phrased it but from reading your posts you might just not be compatible with each other.

@okytdvhuoo 😂

As long as no one snapped and farted I think we're all good!

just say my point of view. So you become and opinionated arsehole you mean! My DH is the same - I love him and he doesn't drink excessively or regularly but he is still an opinionated arsehole when he's had a few beers and I certainly wouldn't put up with this on a Regular basis.

By your logic, you don't have a drinking problem because you don't get into fights and have never beed arrested? That's a pretty low bar.

WTF are you talking about

She should dump you because you are not honest and probably have an alcohol problem.

🤣🤣🤣

Is it the drinking she has a problem with or the way you behave/ speak to her when you've had a drink?

That's two very different things. I couldn't care less if my partner has a few drinks.
I would have a problem if my partner had a few drinks then turned into a complete nob! I also don't really drink.

just say my point of view. So you become and opinionated arsehole you mean! My DH is the same - I love him and he doesn't drink excessively or regularly but he is still an opinionated arsehole when he's had a few beers and I certainly wouldn't put up with this on a Regular basis.

Im never opinionated with her, we have banter about our different views on subjects but its all light hearted fun. My concerned question was as ive found out from earlier posts bad timing.

You're writing in code. I feel like I need the Rosetta Stone to figure this out.