Is this a red flag?

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Iv been seeing a man for 6 months we met on tinder 🙊
He is lovely an we get on really well , laugh constant. We have had a few arguments early on but always been resolved, we both said we love each other after about 4months it's been very intense quite quickly which is fine we are long distance so I think this has added to it, however today he has had his son who's 5, and he has been throwing tantrums BF has called him a little cunt multiple times a few times on message and then once on voice note. It's really not sat right with me my children drive me mad and I lose my rag but I wouldn't even called them cunts?! I really see a future with this man but this is screaming red flag to me, what's everyone else's opinions please?

Run.

I'd be tempted to contact social services too!

If he speaks about this about his own then what's it going to be like someone else's?
You know the answer to your own question.

Sorry what?

Yep.

Have there been any other red flags that you’ve maybe given him the benefit of the doubt on?

Quite a few unfortunately 😩

Very shocked he calls his child that terrible word.
The fact he used it in front of the child is even worse.

End it OP.
Won't be long before he's calling you a cunt too.

Vile. Bin him.

So sorry OP. At least he’s shown his true colours early-ish on. His poor kid.

It's a bummer, sometimes this happens when dating, someone seems great for a bit, then the mask slips, and you find a dealbreaker. This is it I'm afraid, it's good he's shown you who he is. Can't deal with one 5 year old? I'm sure you cope better with your 3 DC's.
Let's hope he can learn from this for the sake of his DS. I'd bin him off and tell him exactly why.

Ye gods!

I would run for the hills. Poor child.

Listen to your intuition. Calling his kid names is awful. How do you know he’s a good dad? A lot of guys like to present themselves as good dads and they’re not at all. Poor little kid!

Hideous man. Poor poor child.

It’s a really cruel, damaging and horrible thing to say in anger in front of a child. It’s going to make him feel so wretched. I couldn’t have anything at all to do with him after that.

He's nor not a lovely dad .
No lovely Dad would call their child a cunt.

Get out now.

Massive red flag. He sounds vile, l can't believe you think he is a lovely man! End it now and let him know the reason why.

Totally agree x

Send the voicenote to social services and block him. Poor child.

The only cunt here is him. What a disgusting thing to refer to a child as let alone your own toddler. Bin him. Horrible man.

…he seems a really lovely dad.

He’s not. He’s a verbal/emotional abuser, and this child is at risk for severely damaged self-esteem and feelings of unworthiness. This pig would be removed from my/my children’s lives pronto.

this is screaming red flag to me

If you're still with him, what do you think 'red flag' means?

Yes it's a red flag. It's appalling to call a child that and if this is going to go anywhere would you want someone that's speaks like that around your children?

I'm amazed you have to ask

Yes it's a red flag, but more than that you now know that you can never have him around your own children. So this relationship can't be long term as he can never meet your kids

I feel so sorry for his son. I hope the mother is kind to him poor little thing

A red flag is a warning. This is full on arsehole behaviour. This has gone way beyond flags.