Mother in law buying me thongs!?!

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A long time ago my mother -in -law bought me sexy thongs twice on 2 separate occasions for a xmas present and for a birthday present. I have been on a real self reflective/self realisation/spiritual journey of late and this issue keeps coming up for me. I think this is not ok for her to buy me sexy underwear. What do others think please?

What did your h think ?

Good question. As usual if I bring up anything even with a slight negative hint towards his mother...he defends her in some way or another

It’s pretty weird.

It’s no reflection on you though. It’s 100% her being odd.

it feels dirty to me with these new eyes I now have on me

Urgh that's quite gross imo!! Maybe return the gesture for her Christmas gift??

🤣I need to know more. A single thong or a pack?
Is that all she got you?

Is it possible she’s just picked up what she thinks is a pack of pants as a present filler?

I personally wouldn’t buy anyone underwear apart from DD and DH. If you wear them and they are the correct size for you, perhaps she thinks you’ll like them. It is odd though!

It's a bit of an unusual/inappropriate gift. But it was a long time ago, so maybe she has realised?

For an otherwise decent MIL i wouldn't get worked up about this now.

I don't know what kind of spiritual journey you need to have been on to feel that your MIL standing in Marks and Spencer with some "sexy thongs" in her hand and thinking of you, is a bit weird 😂

Did she actually realise she'd bought you thongs? Maybe she thought they were ordinary knickers.

Buying underwear is a bit of an intimate present regardless, unless it's a generic pack of big pants or socks.

Thanks guys! It was a pack of 3 on each occasion. Yh she was ok in some ways but possessive of her son/my hubby and would often start a argument and then when I reacted she would call me "too sensitive."

Agreed with majority here....weird! I have 3 grown up sone and note to self...NEVER buy their partners underwear...EVER!!

Spiritual eyes do not judge!

Just accept with gratitude and put them away.

Good point mystic guru! I am not as far on my journey as I thought!!

Are you opening these in front of friends/ family? Do you think there is an ulterior motive to her buying you pants….

I have to say I wouldn’t relish opening a pack of bloody pants in front of an audience. I’d ‘save them for later’!

Does she often get your Husband and any siblings he has underware for birthdays/Christmas? I'm just wondering if she sees it as a standard gift to get children and has extended that to her child inlaw(s)?

Either way I wouldn't give to much head space - if it's sealed pack and you can - take them back, if not bin 'em!

Ulterior motive?? Yh maybe...thats what I am thinking now! Was SHE trying to get into my knickers!? Or was she trying to get involved in our (mine and her sons) intimacy!? Yuk...horrid!! Wonder what Freud would make of this!?

Giving an in-law a multipack of underwear for Christmas is fine. I went to Victoria Secret for my neice because she loves the brand (she’s 11) - their shop assistant directed me to thongs ‘because that’s what all youngsters want to wear’) - luckily for me I know what she like. But if your Mum doesn’t know you like it’d be quite normal.

I buy my daughters nice underwear for Christmas. I don’t think there is anything weird or sinister in that - certainly not for me anyway. It’s buying something that they’d like but they may not buy for themselves. Maybe it’s in that ballpark? And it’s actually you that is putting all sorts of imagined thoughts on to it? A 3 pack is hardly in the ‘sexy’ category is it? Again it’s the MN rule that MILs are always evil no matter what they do…🙄

Next time she wants to visit tell her sadly dh is on a promise thanks to the thongs and see her another time!!

I can’t imagine many “sexy” lingerie type underwear that comes in packs of three, usually just bog standard cotton ones that happen to be the thong style. She probably just bought them as a stocking filler and I wouldn’t give it any thought other than to maybe tell her your knicker style preference??

My mum getting me thongs is different to my mother in law getting me thongs in my opinion

Re Pumpkinsnearlyready.....😂

Oh my aunt gave me some at my hen party with some quiet advice about keeping hubby happy 🤢
DH and I then had a great chuckle about that and the items were “accidentally” left in the honeymoon hotel (they were actually a bit small!) 😅

Yes, it's unusual. that said, any trip round M&S will show that thongs are considered pretty much day to day wear rather than something from a sex shop. Maybe she just assumes that you wear them?

Ewww! Why is your MIL contemplating your gusset-wear????