Mother in law buying me thongs!?!

[lovenotwar149]

A long time ago my mother -in -law bought me sexy thongs twice on 2 separate occasions for a xmas present and for a birthday present. I have been on a real self reflective/self realisation/spiritual journey of late and this issue keeps coming up for me. I think this is not ok for her to buy me sexy underwear. What do others think please?

OP I think your MIL thinks a pack of knickers makes a good present as everyone needs underwear. Also that young women - well women younger than her - wear thongs not big pants.

Either ignore, or tell her you like her knickers because they look so comfortable and loads of women your age wear big knickers so they don't have a VPL.

OMG this is interesting!! I would say yes, this is totally inappropriate gift, any sexy underwear coming from your MIL.Being someone who cannot stand thongs, to me it is even worse. Unless you and her are besties, I would say that she is definitely trying to give you a message, one that I would not appreciate.

Buy her some and see the response, if she says something just say you assumed she likes them with her buying you some.

I would rather a MIL buy me thongs than a multi pack of huge white granny pants.

Is this the same MIL who ironed your thongs into neat little triangles?

@sammyscrounge
Is this the same person? I remember that post.

I laughed at that for weeks!😁😄😀

At least the package wasn't vibrating when she handed it over.

She fancies you 😍🤣

How is your spiritual journey relevant?

Would you have preferred some apple catchers?

My lovely step nan always bought my mum a set of knickers from La Senza for Christmas!! She was absolutely amazing 😂

If your MIL bought some lacy, silky underwear for you... I would see the problem. But as others have said, I've Never known sexy underwear to come in packs of 3 lol.

Is there a chance you have a really crude knicker-line through your trousers or dresses? I remember my aunt having one and secretly wishing her hubby would buy her some thongs lol

What does this underwear look like? Because I agree with PP that sexy underwear doesn’t come in three packs. Maybe she bought you underwear, like she may buy her son boxers for Christmas, but the design is not how you’d prefer. Is it a classic case of sexualising behaviour that for men, we wouldn’t bat an eyelid?

I remember a teen my mum would often buy me what you may consider to be “sexy” underwear. In reality they were lace thongs that she knew no one would be seeing but thought they were nice, not sexy.

i think you’re reading far too much into this. She probably just picked up a three pack in your size. I do the same for DD and son in law (he gets boxers) and DH as stocking fillers. It’s become a standing joke in our house that there’s no need to restock the knicker drawer as mum always puts them in our stockings! If they were red and lacy then highly unusual unless she genuinely thought you might like them. Let it go and stop over thinking! 😁😁

FFS. That’s ‘spiritual bypassing’ - denying that any feelings about it.

It’s totally okay for the OP to realise that this is really weird, possessive behaviour, to feel angry about her MiL overstepping and THEN let it go.

I think he must've moaned to his mum that he wasn't getting sex as much as he would like @lovenotwar149 , or that you didn't dress up enough for his liking. Very annoying.

I would have thought it was a joke that you just didn't get?

I mean my Mil, brought me a couple packs of knickers a few years ago for Xmas, it really didn’t bother me at all and the reason she got them is because I’d made a passing remark that I needed new ones, so I was grateful tbh.

Thank you again people for further replies...I am very grateful for them. And such a variety too. Been a very interesting and amusing read for me!
To Everylittlethingsgonnabealright...yes I agree with your "spiritual bypassing' comment very much so. I nowadays allow myself to feel...well all feelings..and it's truly liberating. These feelings ....joy/love/peace/anger/envy/fear/sadness etc come and go just like my thoughts...which are ultimately connected i.e. thoughts and feelings.
I think I quite likely have overthought this and I believe I can let this go now...phew! Was there a hidden agenda behind her gift? Maybe/maybe not. Does it really matter? No I have decided it doesn't. Would I give such a gift to one of my daughter in laws? No I wouldn't. Not b/c I am right and she is wrong but b/c I just wouldn't feel comfortable with it.
Thanks again people for your thoughts on this. Love and hugs tall xx

MIL would buy her daughters & me underwear as a stocking filler. 🤷🏻‍♀️

My Mil has just called and said she’s bought me a pack of knickers, I thanked her and excited as I know she buys nice M&S ones compared to my usual primark ones 😀