Everytime we argue he threatens to break up ...

[aalleyb]

We live together and been together 18 months.
He has depression but refuses to take medication.
If I disagree with him or have a different opinion than him he threatens to break up
"I'm just gonna go"
"I'm so done"
So then I apologise so he doesn't.

Today I'm sorting the cats food out and one of them knocks it off the bench all over the floor I've just cleaned.
So I get annoyed
So he comes in "well why you annoyed for I've had enough,I'm done"

So me being annoyed at the cat makes him "done"
I'm walking on eggshells
Scared to have a different opinion
Scared to make him mad incase he goes

I'm sick of it
Why is he doing this?
Why can't we just disagree or have little arguments without him saying "he's done"
Last week I wanted to go for food,got ready etc and he didn't.
So I said "ok fine"
Then he says "your annoyed aren't you? Shall we have a couple of days apart"
I say no I'm not annoyed and he says great ...
Then that was forgot about

hes Not being mature at all. Next time he says he’s done call his bluff and say ‘ok then’ eggshells and threats are not healthy

Hit the nail on the head. He’s training you to bow to his wishes, don’t argue, don’t annoy him. Ever.
Once you have to walk on eggshells for a partner, it’s over. I speak from bitter experience, let him go.

He sounds awful. Things will only get worse, so I would tell him you don't want to be with him anymore and you are not happy.

If he says he is done and leaving then just say "maybe that is for the best". Tell him to leave his key and come back for his stuff, get it boxed up and get someone else to be there when he is due to collect.

Why do you apologize? Next time when he’ll say “I’m done” tell him “Ok” , go to a different room and find something simple to do e.g cooking, reading, nail painting. Tell him this calmly and politely and see what he’ll do next.

Tbh the thing for you would be him leaving.

Sorry I’ve meant the best thing

How many years can you put up with this controlling behaviour?

Thank goodness it's your house.
Thank goodness there are no children
Thank goodness you're not married

Stop apologising, take control of your own self-worth and tell him to leave.

Change the locks - for your own peace of mind and to ensure your home is secure - even if he gives you back his keys.

You deserve better than this. 🌹