Ex girlfriend text after "dumping me" 3 years ago ..would you even reply?

[cheelsea]

Around 3 years ago I was seeing a woman.
She was a bit of a player and messed me around,mentally abused me (narcissistic tendencies) stupidly I loved her and gave her chance after chance.
It ended with her discarding me and basically treating me like shit on her shoe.
I wasn't even worthy of a response.

In 3 years she met someone ,married and divorced.
She messaged me on messenger
"I treated you like crap,sorry"

Would you even respond ?

I wouldn’t bother

Why isn’t she already blocked? Ignore it and be thankful she’s not your problem

No I'd ignore it. She deserves to stay in the past.

Why message after 3 years?
Did she assume I would still be moping?
I acted so pathetic with her in the past and always chased her ...she probably thinks I'm that weak

Not a hope in hell why go backwards.

I wouldn’t respond because it’s likely she’s feeling
a)a bit lonely or
b)trying to alleviate herself from a feeling of guilt or
c)reopen the door to you/ego boost

The message is not apologetic or caring enough for me to think it is b and I wouldn’t reply if it was a or c.

Absolutely not. I'd think silently, Yes you did. Now fuck off. And then I'd not give her another passing thought. I certainly wouldn't give her the satisfaction of any response at all.

No chance

Ignore

My advice to you would be to ignore it.

However, I’d be so tempted to text back “who’s this?”

I’d reply ‘I’m glad you recognise this at last’, then block. It would give me a great deal of satisfaction.

New phone, who dis?

Was it sent at night? Sounds like a drunk dial

"I forgive you but that doesn't mean I want to hear from you. All the best"

It was on Facebook messenger.
She blocked me 3 years ago when I was asking for answers
She jumped into marriage with the first woman she met and clearly it blew up in her face
I guess leopards never change their spots

Don’t reply at all. You will berate yourself in time for whatever words you use, Silence is the strongest msg you can send. Dignified silence.

@cheelsea I treated you like crap,sorry.

the Buddhist in me would send this response:

”You did, but i learned something from that experience and I’m glad it happened. I wish you well in life”

Then you block.

You'd be a fool to respond. You would only be playing along with her stupid games. Be smart and block her.

Maybe she is doing a 12 step program or similar and apologising to people she’s hurt?

If you reply, even out of curiosity, you may find it tremendously triggering, so for your own MH, I reckon you are far better off without any contact from her, The next person she is with, will learn the hard way because she's on a rebound anyway.

Just block her, she's a rat up a drainpipe, you'll do better.

Nah, block her.

She's fishing and she can jog on x

No. I very rarely agree with blocking but after three years I would block this person. It won't end well if you respond.

There's a big potential that she wants back in as she's recently single.

She's already making you think about her.
Tread carefully.

Don't respond and don't make her feel better about herself with any message as suggested above. She needs to live with her actions.

No, I would not reply. Perhaps your ex feels guilty, perhaps it's been suggested by a therapist or a spiritual leader or even just a friend that it would help her to apologise to you for whatever pain she caused you. Any and all of that has nothing to do with you, it is all about her. Perhaps you feel compassion toward her, and if so then let this comment from her stand without a reply from you, knowing that for some reason that has absolutely nothing to do with you and will not help you she chose to say this to you now. If you are able, and strong enough, just ignore it. Let it go.