Ex girlfriend text after "dumping me" 3 years ago ..would you even reply?

[cheelsea]

Around 3 years ago I was seeing a woman.
She was a bit of a player and messed me around,mentally abused me (narcissistic tendencies) stupidly I loved her and gave her chance after chance.
It ended with her discarding me and basically treating me like shit on her shoe.
I wasn't even worthy of a response.

In 3 years she met someone ,married and divorced.
She messaged me on messenger
"I treated you like crap,sorry"

Would you even respond ?

I've had experience of this.

Not a partner but a friend.

I'd initially tried to block them when they sent me a horrid message but couldn't as they'd already blocked me when at the time I was finding the words to reply so hadn't for a few days.

Forgot about it. Not her and those awful memories but it had become part of my history rather than my present iyswim?

When she unblocked me and sent me an apology.

I blocked her instantly.

I found out from acquaintances we'd shared about a year later she'd been furious if not apologised to her abusive text she'd originally sent immediately and blocked me in anger and then was angry that when she'd tried to reach out I'd blocked her instantly. (🤣).

Turns out she'd burnt so many many bridges she'd had no choice to try and rebuild some.

I wasn't the only one to ignore her. She hopefully learned a good message from it and went on to build some good friendships.

Truth is that I couldn't really care less either way. But the forgiving part of me wishes happiness on her. Just not happiness that involves my presence

Don't reply, delete and block. If she's the person you say she is she will draw you back in and shit all over you again. Any response will not help you.

'who dat'?

I wouldn’t block her because it sends a message in itself.

I would however Ignore her.

Let her wait for a reply that never comes.

Let her taste her own medicine.

What?! Can people see when you've blocked them? Asking for a friend 😬

I'd reply 'Who is this" and if she responds block her 😂

Don't do this! It's common advice but very immature

Don't reply to it, all you'll succeed in doing is opening a wound again leaving you vulnerable. Those wonder what it could have been and has she changed thoughts will creep back in. Upward and onward chap

My sister had this with a bloke, and when he messaged her 2 years later just responded with that's a shame have a nice life. He still messages her periodically and she just ignores and leaves him on read.
Silence is a response after all.

Her response to me was no response
So I guess it's her getting a taste of her own medicine

Ignore and block. Responding will feed her narcissism and you’ll end up sucked back in. Don’t do it.

No.

Her message is not as simply as an apology, she probably wants attention, to draw you back (so she can treat you the same, things would change), want your forgiveness. But whatever the reason you should ignore, do not get dragged back in!

Fishing.

I've done it when I'm lonely, and it's definitely been done to me a few times. Nothing good every comes of it.

No

That doesn’t sound very sorry. I would have liked a longer explanation. I think she is trying her chances. I would ignore.

Cheeky bastard has just done this scammer that is he is blocked deleted. I’m ok feel good about myself I’m growing in confidence again, doing nice planning and dreaming about nice Christmas,

Sorry to hear this, sounds painful and that she is still on your mind.

I wouldn't worry about how your actions look to her, only do actions which protect and support yourself. If I was in your situation I would reply "thanks for your apology, but I prefer not to have further contact" then block her immediately.

It's frustrating because I managed to put her to the back of my mind.
Anytime she crept in I would avoid thinking of her.

No.
Just ignore it.
Her conscience is her problem.

She’s lonely. She’s hoping you respond to make herself feel better and less lonely. Don’t give her the satisfaction,

Definitely ignore.

My ex broke my heart and used me dreadfully. He would then dump me for much much younger women and when they inevitably dumped him he would contact me for an ego boost and/or a shag.

She wants an ego boost and she is not above using you to get it.

You should ignore and block, here's why.

What she's doing is narcissitic hoovering. The three stages of narcissism are;

1. Love bombing - showering you with their version of love to make you feel that this is the best version of love you've ever felt. You both fall faster than you ever have.

1. Devaluing - She's getting bored of you and the gaslighting and abuse starts. She'll make you jealous of someone else in her life (triangulation) and punish you for that jealousy. She will be on the look out for the next victim to love bomb. She'll show you just enough of stage one to make you feel it's worth fighting for.

1. Discarding - She's got someone else on the scene and you're outlived your value as a source of drama that she feeds off. You're gone.

Hoovering is when she sucks you back in and then you'll go through the three stages again but quicker.

Replying to messages even to say no is exactly what she wants.

Please ignore and block. You don't need this.