Ex girlfriend text after "dumping me" 3 years ago ..would you even reply?

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Around 3 years ago I was seeing a woman.
She was a bit of a player and messed me around,mentally abused me (narcissistic tendencies) stupidly I loved her and gave her chance after chance.
It ended with her discarding me and basically treating me like shit on her shoe.
I wasn't even worthy of a response.

In 3 years she met someone ,married and divorced.
She messaged me on messenger
"I treated you like crap,sorry"

Would you even respond ?

I'd reply. I think sometimes the no response thing males you look hurt still.
I'd say, "all forgotten now, take care".
And then if she responds to that (I'd be surprised) leave it there

stupidly I loved her and gave her chance after chance

If you reply it’s another chance. Block and move on. She’s already got back in your head.

She is hurt and that’s ok.

@Readaboutyourself yes of course it is, but although no response at all is perfectly understandable, it will no doubt be interpreted as "she"s not over me, the loss of me devastated her"
A bland "water under the bridge now mate" type of text (with no follow up) could show more insouciance.
But it's not about how it seems to the x. If you don't want to reply, don't, Regardless of what x thinks.

I would read the opposite in no response ie the message sender is so irrelevant these days that her message was instantly deleted and forgotten about.

Do not reply mentally wish her well but block her and move on

I suspect she is reflecting on her life having met someone, married and divorced them within 3 years.

She hasn't asked you for anything and it isn't a message that requires or even asks for a response.

I'd suspect she's not having a great time right now akd is feeling a bit sorry for herself. I also suspect that the stage was genuine in its sentiment.

None of that means you should reply. I wouldn't.

I'd reply, "yes you were an abusive nasty person and I'm so glad you're no longer in my life" and then block.

You obviously still have feelings for her.

I suspect whatever anyone tells you, you'll reply and in doing so, are inviting her back into your life, whatever you write.

Good luck, your going to need it.

I would leave it. Don't give her any power over you by responding

I sent her 3 messages 3 years ago and all got ignored
So I don't owe her a thing
Also I know her too well,there's no spiritual healer etc ...she doesn't think of anyone but herself.
I'm assuming it's a ego boost she's after as she used to talk to so many women.

Just looking for attention, she isn't worthy of a response.

No.

You should have blocked her. Block her now.

Nah I wouldn't reply after 3 months let alone 3 years, that ship has well and truly sailed.

See?

She’s already sucking you back in, and the fact you never blocked her indicates you always hoped she’d get back in touch.

Don’t be stupid.

Come of this thread, block and delete.

Nope! No response needed there.

She says she treated you like crap and she did. So no response needed there. Accept the apology (inwardly), block and ignore.

Perhaps she is doing the 12 pillars or something. Just ignore her. Youve manage for 3 years without her.

She's doing what I like to call the ol yank on the fishing line to see if you're still hooked on there and reelable if she feels like it.

Funny how she's only seen fit to apologise noe her relationship/marriage has failed and she's presumably single again (to some extent).

Or she's actually gained some self awareness and empathy and is apologising .... But I'm not so sure about that. It's probably at least partly trying to gather up romantic options/narcissistic supply.

And yeah no response necessary.

At the time I didn't block her because I did hope she would message again one day
Not anymore -I haven't blocked lately because she wasn't relevant anymore
I wouldn't block her like I wouldn't block a random (if that makes sense)
She literally broke my heart -she knew what she did
Tbh I don't know how she dared even message me

Ignore, she is probably single and after someone to like/love her or a bit of attention, maybe she thinks you are weak and will go back to her! My ex did this once after over a year of not being together, he was messaging me whilst in bed with his now wife telling me he was thinking about me, i replied and was polite but told him it was wrong of him to be thinking of me when in bed with her, never heard from him again! Not sure what he wanted.

Do not get sucked back in. Who cares why she is contacting you - She is probably bored. Ignore

The best answer is no answer.

I'd say yeah you did. Then block.

In a 12 step program you only apologise if to do so would not cause further harm and most of these types of ex ones you leave them be, that's your amends. You just need to be willing to apologise. You aren't meant to do further harm.