Does looks/sexual attraction matter you

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Like, If you didnt find the man visually/sexually attractive then would you still pursue a relationship with him?

Does a mans body/looks matter to you?

I probably wouldn't pursue a relationship if there was no sexual spark. I'm not bothered about what someone looks like, but if there's no chemistry, then I'd rather be friends.

Looks and body shape are irrelevant, people are attractive for any number of reasons and looking drop dead gorgeous isn't always one of them.

If I met a guy for the first time and wasn't attracted physically to them then I wouldn't pursue it.

On the other hand if I was just friends with a guy I could become physically attracted over time because of their personality, sense of humour, values, etc.

Matters to me, I like a good looking man. I dont have a specific body type attraction, if theyre a bit overweight its fine.

My hubby is sexy and it rhymes... But the thing is sexy is way more then looks.

I think there has to be physical/sexual attraction otherwise you won’t want intimacy. But I do think they can grow over time and a man’s personality is, for me, a big part of what makes them physically/sexually attractive.

To me sexual attraction is more than looks. It's everything about him, including looks, but yeah there's more than just looks.

There are lots of stereotypical gorgeous men out there (think models etc) that do not excite me in the slightest. I know they are conventionally good looking but it doesn't mean I fancy them. I absolutely do need to find someone attractive to want to pursue something but that is objective. A good looking guy with an ugly personality makes them unattractive and vice verse.

*subjective!

I need chemistry and sexual attraction, but looks are irrelevant either way without that spark - chemistry bypasses physical attributes imo.

With no chemistry I’m not interested in anything aside from friendship even if they are extremely physically attractive.

Chemistry would be important to me go pursue a new relationship.

Yes.😀

Sexual attraction goes way beyond looks, for me, anyway.

Speaking from the male side of the divide I think looks are a bit of a red herring. Attitude to life and whether you would be good fun in the bedroom are more important.

I don’t go for conventional handsome men but there would need to be something that appeals to me. Being sexy is more about the aura, allure the way someone moves and general presence.

I don't think it's 'looks' so much as physical chemistry and a connection. This is related to looks and superficial appearance but it's not everything - sense of humour, spark, chat, things in common are needed. "Pheromones" as Kath Day-Knight rightly pointed out.

That's why online dating fails so often. You can't get a read on chemistry' from a photo or video or message.

All that said, I think looks are important. I don't do mingers.

I guess what I'm trying to say that 'sexual attraction' and 'looks' are two different things.

Looks categorically do not matter to me. I have met men who are text book handsome, drop dead gorgeous but with the personality and sex appeal of a potato!

And then there are some men who may not be your idea of handsome/attractive but then you start talking and engaging with them and suddenly there’s a connection, an attraction. Definitely far more interesting and exciting, generally speaking.

I'm attracted to my OH but I am not purely attracted to anyone based on their looks. It's more their smell and how they make me feel for me. I can find people very beautiful when they aren't classically good looking and equally can think "ugh" when I don't like a person even when they're (supposedly) stunners.

Not sure I've answered your question very well there...😄

Well if there was no physical attraction you wouldn’t want them as a sexual partner would you?

Often looks come into that, but it can just be a connection that sparks. Looks are more likely to matter if it’s a blind date or something, than say a colleague you gradually get to know.

Why are you asking?

Yes. It doesn't have to be Danielle Steel or anything because that rarely lasts anyway, but I have to fancy him. To be proud to look at him and to want to hold his hand kiss have regular sex etc. I tried to settle without it with someone who's lifestyle was compatible with mine and who was in love with me, it didn't work.

No flicker - end it quicker 👍

I didn't find my current partner attractive when I met him. On our first date I realised we had a lot in common and that was the main reason for pursuing it. I remember him asking if he could kiss me. The kiss wasn't very good but the fact he didn't assume it was what I wanted made me realise what he was like as a person. I think sometimes attraction can grow and when it does it leads to a much stronger relationship. Now I look at him and go weak at the knees whenever I see him.

Well I think sexual attraction depends on a number of things, beyond just looks. For example, their face could be repulsive but their c**k could be quite nice.

Also in my opinion sexual attraction is more than what someone looks like, although obviously it matters. It's their character, shared values and opinions, respect. The way they smell, dress, walk. The way their voice sounds. Their humour. Their whole entire being. That's why whenever my girl friends drool over male models or whatever saying "ooo I wouldn't kick him out of bed" etc I can never join in and why I never fancy anyone until I've known them for some time. If he's "fit" but an arsehole, tightarse, womaniser etc it doesn't matter what he looks like. Be as handsome as you like. Only a personality can make someone desirable.

Should this ever happen and I seriously doubt it if he can’t kiss not a hope. I’ve never had great sex never will now but yes the attraction has to be there.