Does looks/sexual attraction matter you

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Like, If you didnt find the man visually/sexually attractive then would you still pursue a relationship with him?

Does a mans body/looks matter to you?

For me there have been very few people in life that I have found physically attractive from the get go. Meanwhile there have been people who I found unattractive until I got to know them, and then I think they’re the hottest thing ever, and there’s nothing similar about any of my exes.

Dont get me wrong, height will peak my interest more than anything else at a glance, but I’m over 6ft, and I have dated shorter and wouldn’t discriminate.

Everyone’s different though, and I wouldn’t pursue anything if I didn’t find them attractive after getting to know them.

@PretzelLady well if your not attracted to looks then are you bisexual? Because if personality matters to you then surely it wouldnt matter what gender the person is

Yes I am

@PretzelLady so its the same with women where your not attracted to them on looks alone?

I might like the look of someone, but it won't be purely aesthetic. Like I could look at some classically beautiful woman like Blake Lively or Margot Robbie and not think anything much, but could see an ordinary woman walking along and be attracted to her because of how she ...is. It isn't looks and I don't super glam stunner types, generally speaking.

Don't fancy*

@Summerslam so if your not bothered about looks then are you bisexual?

Physical attraction is important to me, yes. I'm happily married, but if I were single I would only date men who I found physically attractive.

However, it's not as simple as being attracted on looks alone, or the man having to be drop dead gorgeous. Often attraction develops as I get to know someone - once I've got to know them I start to notice the physical things about them that I like etc.

No I wouldn’t.

A relationship without sexual or romantic intimacy is just a friendship.
Lots and lots of people are happy with sexless relationships or being “companions” for each other. If that works for you then great.
But it wouldn’t work for me.
if I don’t fancy a man then no way I could be intimate with him and if I’m not going to be intimate then it’s just a friendship.

I don’t think that’s really got anything to do with sexual orientation. I think women are beautiful and definitely have some lady crushes but I like penises not vaginas.

@KiraKiraHikaru so your attracted to womens appearance but mens personalities?

But when I hear women say "I dont care about appearance" then surely you would also date women as well if you go for personality.

No. Because I’m straight. I date people I want to have sex with. Which is men. I find both men and women attractive, but I only want to have sex with men.

Appearance and sexual chemistry (pheromones etc.) are different things though.

It's possible to not give a shit about appearance, but only feel attracted to one sex.

I agree with this, even though I am attracted to men and women

@KiraKiraHikaru lol but how are you straight when yoi said that you have some lady crushes?

I know that personality matters and as a man I couldnt be with a super model who was a bitch but I need to be physically attracted to her. Usually in the first 3 seconds I know if I find her physically attractive or not.

The same way I can admire a beautiful painting without trying to fuck it.

It would be very important to me to think the person was attractive.

Otherwise it'd feel like settling, or like being with a 'consolation prize' rebound boyfriend.

The person has to be attractive TO ME, tho o don't necessarily always fancy conventionally attractive people. And I tend to have sex very early on in my relationships, and the sex has to be good. Again TO ME - I'm not sure sex is objectively good or bad - but it has to suit my tastes.

Similarly I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't find me attractive and sexually compatible, tho I am not conventionally stunning (nor ugly - pretty average looks I'd say, but I have a certain look like we all do that either is or isn't to somebody's tastes).

Well of course. I could not have a romantic relationship with a man unless I am attracted to him. But that doesn't mean he has to be handsome or gym- honed. An open kind face with nice skin and a average body is absolutely fine.

Plenty of straight women have lady crushes, surely? It's not always about sexual attraction.

It's all about chemistry for me.

I've dated someone who I wouldn't say is nice looking but what attracted me to him was his charm, confidence and sense of humour. We had great chemistry.

@Need2P well how would you feel if a man thought you were not nice looking/unattractive but dated you cause of your personality?

Me personally I think its wrong to date someone who you dont find sexually/phyically attractive. You hear the steriotype that all men would shag a woman even if they dont find her attractive but thats not me, Even if a girl offered me a hookup I wouldnt have sex with her if I didnt find her attractive

@mondaytosunday yeah as a man although looks do matter but I've never been attracted to the type of women you see on love island. Im a young tall fit lad but I love mummy bods and women who look more natural, I dont find megan fox attractive but Id probaly find the cute woman with glasses stacking shelfs at tescos more attractive.

Even when Im at a club I always find myself more attracted to women who look more "plain" and who are not covered in makeup or wearing super tight dresses with thier tits and arse hanging out