Ex baby dad

[Anonymous66]

Hi,

I’ve discovered my ex is bad mouthing me and telling people I’ve stabbed him and I made him the way he is (hears voices and is taking drugs) I wondered how as a single mum you suggest I avoid this creating worse anxiety for myself especially as I’m wanting to be a police officer I don’t want serious allegations like that to impact my career. And how do you suggest I explain to my son when he’s older about where his dad is etc? His dads always drinking, sleeping round and doing drugs, I hate being the one to lie to my son but I also wanna protect him and have him be happy

He is spouting the 'crazy ex' stories which probably means he has a new woman in his life who he wants to impress, and so uses you to take the blame.

It'll go on for a few months until she works out that he's a toxic creep too, and she leaves, at which point she will become the 'crazy ex' for the next woman.

It will pass, just wait it out and within a year or so, he'll have moved on.

And don't worry about the police thing, unless he's actually been to the police with a stab wound, brought an official complaint and you've been questioned/charged, it won't have any impact. The police deal with malicious nonsense every day of the week, and like to have evidence before they reach conclusions.

And how do you suggest I explain to my son when he’s older about where his dad is etc?

Daddy is unwell and struggling. Which he is if he's hearing voices. Just age-appropriate explanations of MH issues.

Thank you guys! The girl he’s supposedly seeings already noticed how weird he is, as he keeps pestering her with messages and didn’t even tell her he was a dad, it’s so sad as he’s not reached out to his son in 3 weeks and idk what to do

it’s so sad as he’s not reached out to his son in 3 weeks and idk what to do

The man is hearing voices and takes drugs. It's probably a very good thing that he isn't around his son at the moment.

The girl he’s supposedly seeings already noticed how weird he is, as he keeps pestering her with messages

Why are you involved with her? It's all sounds very Jeremy Kyle.

Many years ago I told my then partner I'd had enough. He left. He then told everyone who'd listen that I couldn't live without him and tried to top myself. He had been cheating but I didn't know that then.