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Instagram - what is he viewing?

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Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 19:06

Bit of a strange on really. I was on Insta earlier passing time, and I looked at my partners page and had a look who he was following, just out of boredom, I’ll was looking to pinch some followers. Anyway, I find there is a few people who he followers, all men which I found off. So you know how it goes, I click on these profiles to snoop, these ‘profiles’ all follow women - only fans women and content creators. Is my fella following these men purely for access to only fans accounts?? Is it even a thing to have accounts have been set up purely to hoard models pages? My partner doesn’t follow the only fans, but follows mens pages that ‘follow/host’ a load of them. Or am I being absolutely CRAZY here ?

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Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 19:12

Gosh there’s a lot of typos in there, apologies.

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humdedum · 31/08/2022 19:23

Unless he knows them personally, he's following them to see their content.
Be aware though that they may have posted something unrelated to girls - such as a funny meme or something relating to sport (or something your partner might be into) and he has hit 'follow' based on that piece of content.

I found I'd followed a crypto person once and on investigation turned out they'd posted something funny and unrelated to their regular posts.

Obvs if there are multiple accounts like this, the above reason might not hold up!

humdedum · 31/08/2022 19:27

*also be aware that account stories often don't reflect the saved posts. So, again he could have followed on the basis of the story content.

Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 19:36

humdedum · 31/08/2022 19:27

*also be aware that account stories often don't reflect the saved posts. So, again he could have followed on the basis of the story content.

Yeah I thought similar but, these accounts have no saved posts though, obviously I can’t see their stories unless I follow them, but there’s nothing in their bio that suggests they are bloggers or share memes or anything , also these appear to be young men in their 20s/30s judging by their profile pic, my partner is in his 50’s. They look like blank profiles that just follow women and only fans and 18+ content creators but with a huge following themselves too. Strange !

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QueSyrahSyrah · 31/08/2022 19:39

Did you look at his followers? Have they followed him (because they're bots) and he's just automatically followed back?

humdedum · 31/08/2022 19:42

Oh I see what you mean. Kind of like a directory of only-fan models/content creators, followers can tap into without needing to follow the model...

Doesn't sound great. I wouldn't leap to conclusions, but worth having a chat to him about it.

Supercal00 · 31/08/2022 19:54

You can see their stories if their page is open and you don’t follow. They could report the OG posts to their stories and he will be looking at that content, maybe which girls to look at etc as opposed to following the girls directly?

Supercal00 · 31/08/2022 19:55

Sorry I meant repost not report. So they put the girls content on their stories. An easier way to see a selection of different content maybe

Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 19:56

QueSyrahSyrah · 31/08/2022 19:39

Did you look at his followers? Have they followed him (because they're bots) and he's just automatically followed back?

our if the several, only one follows him

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Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 19:58

Yes like a directory - perfect way to describe it. I could be looking way too much into this though. It’s just strange.

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Supercal00 · 31/08/2022 20:37

I suppose you have to decide what you are comfortable with. If he’s looking at girls posing in underwear/naked/porn where are you boundaries and issues. If your mind is wondering to him viewing that content maybe think if the route cause if that bothering you and why then maybe chat through. Try not to drive yourself mad over it and assuming things.

Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 20:49

Supercal00 · 31/08/2022 20:37

I suppose you have to decide what you are comfortable with. If he’s looking at girls posing in underwear/naked/porn where are you boundaries and issues. If your mind is wondering to him viewing that content maybe think if the route cause if that bothering you and why then maybe chat through. Try not to drive yourself mad over it and assuming things.

I won’t bring it up as he would only deny and I’d end up looking stupid. I don’t mind him looking at images as I couldn’t stop him anyway. As long as he’s not paying for live content!! I know he watches porn so this just got me thinking if perhaps he’s doing more than what I thought. I leave it for now and just bare it in mind as the chat is definitely a no go.

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middleofthelittle · 31/08/2022 20:56

Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 19:58

Yes like a directory - perfect way to describe it. I could be looking way too much into this though. It’s just strange.

It's gross, I wouldn't put up with it. No doubt he is subscribed to their only fans accounts too.

Does he have his own bank account?

Flashinglights234 · 31/08/2022 21:21

middleofthelittle · 31/08/2022 20:56

It's gross, I wouldn't put up with it. No doubt he is subscribed to their only fans accounts too.

Does he have his own bank account?

He does have his own bank account, I can’t access any statements so that’s no an avenue I can go down. It could be genuine follows for story content but these people just happen to follow all the women.

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