Still struggling to understand how this caused such a big problem

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A couple of months ago i had a huge falling out with MIL. Massive.

Prior to that we had got on fine (well I thought we did but what was said made me realise she has not ever liked me and that I’ve been discussed negatively by her and other members of dh family so I feel quite upset and humiliated)

We had been getting on with what was a busy day had an appointment and it was nearly school pick up time and she had asked for a lift somewhere but we had said sorry we are busy. Later on dh called her to say ‘sorry about that next time give us a day or even a few hours notice and we will move things around to help’ but she launched into an attack on me and said hideous unforgivable things.

She still hasn’t apologised and seems to think that she can just talk to dh as if nothing has happened whilst acting like I just don’t exist ??! He doesn’t contact her but if she contacts him he will respond and keep contact to a minimum but the whole situation is just horrible and I wish it hadn’t happened and we could go back to how it was but it wasn’t real - she never really liked me and like an idiot I didn’t realise. But it’s so awkward now and I don’t know what to do 😞

has anyone got advice I am not sure how to move forward

You sound like a nice person which is why it’s so upsetting. She sounds toxic and it might be a blessing in disguise to keep her at a distance. She sounds like she would resent anybody who took her little boy away from her. She’s pathetic

Had the same problem a few years back. MIL and i had it out, she was upset with me for God knows what (till this day i have no clue) I left her house in tears.
She used to phone me then hang up after i answered. She would invite DH over for lunches and dinners excluding me. She used to also call and talk to him like nothing had happened. Unlike your DH, mine entertained her. It caused a lot of problems in my marriage. For a few years it was a real living nightmare. My Dad had gotten really ill and i eventually lost Him. DH was so distant and unsupportive all because of this rift with his mother. I fell pregnant, she did not even acknowledge my pregnancy the entire 9 months. if ever we were at a family gathering and everyone would be talking about the baby she would just be quiet or act like she is deaf 🙄.
We eventually started talking again but i will never forgive her and i will always despise her. I just try and keep it civil for the sake of my families peace and my sanity.

Keep her blocked and DH low contact, she's a bitch. If she decides to apologise, you can decide if you want anything to do with her. Try and get on with things in the mean time. Not your problem.