Such terrible fearsome wives they just leave vulnerable children with?
Says someone who’s clearly not been through the grinders of the family “justice” system as a man.
An ex I was with for three years turned physically abusive for the last 6 months or so of the relationship. I stayed in that for 5.5 months too long, out of a misplaced sense of loyalty.
Had we had kids, I would like to think I’d have stayed until they were adults, regardless of what she put me through. Because being “around” might have mitigated harm to them and because I had been thoroughly disabused of the notion that the police or the criminal justice system cared one jot about men in my (then) situation.
But she was ramping up into ever more batshit behaviour, so who knows? I may have ended up with no choice but to get out, and other men in the same situation might have to leave for their mental and physical well-being.
As it was, that ex very nearly cost me my job at the time. She caused problems within co-workers relationships by claiming (and to be clear, with no foundation) that said colleagues (multiple) were having affairs with me. She also claimed we were married. That’s on top of the physical injuries she inflicted on me.
As an aside, my uncle was left with his wife’s two kids (not his by blood), as well as his own child by her, when she ran off with the OM. My exW’s uncle’s wife also ran off with OM and left their two with him. She had very little contact with them until they were adults.