If it was your decision to get divorced do you ever regret it?

[TheOceanClub]

just like that really.

I only regret not doing it sooner.

No, once I'd made the decision, it was like a weight lifted.

I have not regretted it for one single second since. 😃

No!

Honestly?

Yes and no.

No because I could never have trusted him after what he did

Yes because we were together 15 years, had 3 kids together and had got through so much shit in the past thst I felt like a failure

No, the reverse. Im grateful and full of relief almost every day that I did it.

No. Just wish had done it sooner.

No, I had switched off my feelings for him long before I left him.

No but it has limited my family size so I regret that.

No I only wish I had done it sooner or better still not gone through with the wedding.

No a hundred times over. We coparent and I’m thriving. Kids doing great.
im five years out now. He’s in a long term relationship with a woman who has a distant relationship with the kids (their choice)
im single and not really looking
I had a ton of trauma to work through, then the pandemic hit.
yes I’m lonely and starved for touch and affection but it’s all I’ve ever known so 🤷‍♀️

My only regret about my divorce is that I had to go through it because I married him in the first place. And it was bloody expensive and I carried all the costs. But worth every single penny.

Absolutely no. I went from being poor, miserable/ depressed, awful home/homelife to total happiness, financially solvent, lovely home, freedom etc etc etc. Such bliss..

Not for a second.

I do wish I had done it sooner.

I'm not in contact with my ex - but I'm sure he feels the same despite him wanting us to stay together at the time he got his revenge dragging out the divorce as much as he could

Hell no. Should of done it way sooner.

Massively regretting it. Stand to lose everything. Hope I feel differently in time.

bookmarks the thread for inspiration for when the wobbles appear

No, not once. I had done all my crying and grieving when we were together, and by the time I left him, I had moved on entirely. The ex tried to reconcile with me, but I was already finished giving him chances and had moved on.

I left our massive new home for a crappy apartment with basically just my dog and a few belongings I could carry in my car. I was much happier in that small home than I’d been in years.

I met the most lovely man within a few months. We married fairly quickly after my divorce came through.Lots of people thought it was a rebound, but we’ve been married over 20 years and are still happy.

Also holding my place as I need to hear this…

Absolutely not - though it was hard being a single parent for a while, it was immediately infinitely better than being in an unhappy marriage.

I regret not doing it sooner, I have no regrets about the divorce.

Going to go massively against the grain here and say yes. BUT that is because my abusive ex (who ignored me and our DD most of the time when we were together) did an about-face and has spent the 8 years following our divorce doing everything in his power to destroy me emotionally and financially and has DD convinced he's wonderful. His behaviour has been so much worse since I left him (helped by the family courts) and I'm in a worse place physically and mentally since I left him too.

I appreciate I may be an unusual case though. People say 'but you left so DD could have a better life' - he now has her 50/50 and I can't protect her from him anymore as I'm not there.

I only regretting wasting my 20s.
I'm 35 now and don't plan on ever giving my life away to a man.

My ex does something once a week that reaffirms my decision. We are fundamentally very different people who should never have been together, let along got married or had children (although I love my DS so much and wouldn’t change him for the world- I just feel bad for burdening him with such a selfish father)

No, never. He helped a lot by revealing the full extent of what an unpleasant character he was after I initiated divorce proceedings.

I have been married twice. First husband, father of my dc, were together for 18 years and fell out of love. The split was mutual and amicable. I remarried 2.5 years ago to a man I thought was lovely but then I found he had signed up to a dating website earlier this year. He wanted to put it behind us and thought it wasnt really that bigger deal, I disagreed and split with him. Three months on and I feel like the fog has lifted and I am so glad I saw his true colours sooner rather than later and had the strength to end it. The man was never wrong, had a very high opinion of himself and sought the attention of women behind my back to make himself feel good (this is a 55 year old man ffs) - no way will I ever regret walking away with my head help high. His loss 100%, he was dating again within 2 weeks of us splitting which is proof enough I made the right choice.