An affair at work only

[deepathinka]

Please don't think I'm being silly but can a man have an affair that is purely based in his working hours only? I'm suspicious but he never goes out without me . He's glued to his phone to the detriment of anything else , monosyllabic and I can't do a thing right .

I was also thinking that he could be trying to wear you down and make you the ‘bad guy’ who left the marriage and gave up. Cowardice again. Can’t look you in the face and tell you what he really wants, doesn’t want to appear in any way to blame, so he drives you to your limit hoping you will initiate a split. If he wasn’t previously over critical, didn’t previously stay glued to his phone, then I’m sorry, it looks more and more like OW. My husband hid his affair at work easily. It was only when he went to see her one Saturday and was as odd as anything before he left that I thought anything was up. He could compartmentalise all week because he was going to work as normal, but that weekend just going for the sole purpose of seeing her collided both worlds and the guilt and realisation of what he was doing hit him. He couldn’t hide it any longer. If he’d been shitty or odd to me before that it would have been easier to spot. He was totally normal. But then again he didn’t really want to leave.

He's trying to engineer problems in your relationship so he can say you weren't getting on when you split up and he all of a sudden finds himself in a new relationship which has been going on for ages.

Call his bluff and chuck him out. Tell him you're obviously not suited to each other anymore and there's no point dragging it on whilst destroying each other. See what his reaction is.

Sorry your going through this OP, sounds very similar to the way my husband was acting when he was having an affair with OW at work. Staying in spare room, smirking at his phone (but he would be on the home screen if I came near him), dragging me down.. I couldn't do anything right..when I'd threaten divorce he would say 'go on then' and he would tell me 'I don't love you at this moment', I was pregnant at the time with two small children and I was begging him to tell me what was wrong but he would just walk out and be out in his car for hours. After gaslighting me for years I finally caught him out. Don't put up with his crap x

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@deepathinka how has this week been?

This nay be a Internet relationship, Unfortunately there are many sites that offer hook ups for married people.
They may never meet but swap messages and photos..
Keep strong and don't move out let him leave .
He sounds apoauling X