He’s cheated again!

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Can’t even believe I’m writing this. My partner cheated on me 5 months after I gave birth to our son! He’s now 3.

I’ve just found texts between someone he works with, disgusting texts of what he wants to do to her in the bedroom. He’s told her he’s been single for 5 months and he lives with his mum and see his son on the weekend. We’ve just got back of holiday together, we live together, we’ve been in a really good place so what the hell is this about!!!

I can’t cope, I’m absolutely heartbroken that he’s fine this again! How do I get Over this?!

You don't.
Nor should you.
Why would you want too?

A cheat is a cheat is a cheat.
0 tolerance is the only way. Partner cheats, relationship ends, no chances, no apologies, no justifications. Buy bye.

How awful to find this out again after you forgave and trusted him.
Difficult to hear right now and easier said than done but get rid of him!
If you forgive him this time, what's to say it won't happen again but he'll be better at hiding it.
You deserve better!!

Well the fact that you've been in what you thought was a really good place recently, shows that your partner is going to do this no matter what. It's the way he is.

Your child is three now so hopefully easier to manage. Because you are going to have to rally your troops, your friends and family who are going to be supportive and get out of this relationship.

How are things financially? Can you afford your house on your own?

You have to keep telling yourself that the man you thought he was, actually doesn't exist. It's a headfuck and counselling may well help you and give you strength.

That's shit, I'm so sorry. You need to walk away from him.

Any risk you might be pregnant after your holiday?

Dump your substandard boyfriend of course. Enjoy life. Get tested for STDs.

Sorry OP, not a nice feeling but you know what you need to do. Leave.

He has to go. How vile of him to lie and cheat! This is not forgivable in my opinion.

You don't , you just tell him to leave

I'd probably take the OW number and text her to let her know the real situation, preferably with a nice picture of you both on holiday together. Then I'd bag up his stuff and give him his marching orders.

Don't make the same mistake a second time of forgiving him OP.

You don't get over it. You leave him. No doubt about it.

I'm so sorry x

A leopard never changes it's spots.

The best thing you can do is just walk away.

Hes an opportunitist he will always cheat if the situation arises leave now ass he will always do it. So sorry op its hard but you know he's untrustworthy

I am so sorry you are going through this. It is incredibly difficult but only you can decide what you want to do. Staying sometimes seems the easier choice I would recommend if you are thinking of staying to have a period of seperation and get some counselling for you to process. I initially thought I wanted to work on my marriage (had a toddler too who cries out for daddy when he isn't here) but after therapy, learning to love myself and realising I am all I need my head is in a totally different space. Rally your support network and be kind to yourself. If family can help with your child giving you some space for grieving the relationship you thought you had then take it. Its horrendous being cheated on as it destroys all foundations of trust and what you thought your life was but there is no shame in being the one being cheated on only on the cheat. Do not allow his shame or disgusting behaviour to erode your self worth

Leave or be cheated on again

Those are your options

He will do this over and over again - if you stay this time, you are giving him the green light.

Please leave this waste of space, I promise in time you will be so much happier for it x

Stay with him.
It's fine.
It will all be fine.

Or am I lying?

Let his little fake fantasy where he lives at his mums become a reality, after you message the other woman telling her the truth.

Scumbag, you deserve better.

Oh blimey, so sorry to read this. I'm afraid the person you think you married doesn't actually exist, that's the harsh reality. If he's told the woman he lives at his mums then I would make that come true! Good luck xx

Kick him out and concentrate on you x

I’ve text the other woman. She had no idea about me and she said she’s truly sorry and she’s deleted his number. Even though they work together so will still see each other.

he has left and gone to his mums house.

he said he done this out of boredom 😂😩

He’s a fucking idiot.

Let hun enjoy his mums house, he’ll try and come crawling back soon enough and I hope you slam the door in his face.

And change your username, you have nothing to be embarrassed about x

Him*

I found out my partner cheated on me with a girl at work recently. Had my suspicions for months that he liked her but after much sneaking about and saying he would stop messaging her, and her saying the same, he didn't. It took me months to kick him out but I did and he will NEVER stop cheating. He's with her now and already cheated several times that I know of.

Please don't do that to yourself. He will destroy you. Don't let him back in, you're worth so much more. X

😂😂boredom? I cant

Honestly get rid of him, he will keep doing it. And as above, you have nothing to be embarrassed about. He does.